Only the Lonely?

“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” 
Wayne Dyer 

Ever sit in a restaurant and notice people around you dining alone? More often than not they are fiddling with their cell phones or laptops trying to make themselves look busy. Now some of these people may in fact be doing something productive, but we have to admit, some people really just appear to be uncomfortable being alone in public places.

I was eating breakfast this morning and I noticed two women that inspired todays post. Both women were seated by the hostess and in a matter of minutes I noticed that they appeared uncomfortable having to engage in the simple act of just enjoying breakfast by themselves. While this one women pulled out her laptop and started stalking her friends on facebook, the other played with her iphone while she waited to be approached by her waiter. Are people really that uncomfortable just enjoying some alone time in a public place without the use of some technological device that assists them in looking busy?

Sometimes it seems that the idea of being alone is not socially accepted. Although we wont admit it, how often do we judge people who travel alone, eat dinner alone, or attend a movie alone? It appears to me that we would much rather judge these individuals before admitting to ourselves that people who are alone in public truly makes us uncomfortable.

Have we honestly reached a point where we have made people think its “bad” to be alone? We see it in movies all the time when the waiter comes up to the apparently sad patron dining alone and asks them “Will you be dining alone miss?” Why do we have to constantly send the message to people that they have to be in some type of group in order to be accepted by society?  Are the inappropriate glances and smart comments we make towards these people really necessary?

When you are comfortable in your own skin you are more capable of stepping away from the crowd and being an individual. You can enjoy a stroll in the park on a sunny day all by yourself, you can travel to Spain just because you have always wanted to, and you can watch a movie in a packed theater full of couples without thinking twice about that fact that you did this all these things alone.

Taking sometime every so often to just be by yourself is completely healthy. If you can’t enjoy being alone with yourself then you really should take sometime to question where that’s coming from.

“We’re born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone”.
Orson Welles 

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