I spoke with my life coach, Lori Ostenfeld yesterday and she shared an exercise with me that I wanted to share with all of my readers. During our conversation she asked me to indulge her for a moment to work on an activity to define happiness for myself. The following two questions listed below were asked of me several times over. If any of you would like to take a moment to respond, I would love to see what happiness is for you.
1. Feeling fulfilled
2. Having a purpose
3. Being Satisfied
4. In my hands only
5. A choice
6. Having motivation
7. Being inspired by others
8. Surrounding myself with positive people
9. Taking time to self reflect
Real happiness is…
1. A sense of freedom
2. Never second guessing
3. Taking risks
4. Listening to my intuition
5. Stopping to look at the stars
6. Disregarding extra baggage even though it may be difficult
7. Bringing happiness to someone else
8. Loving without expectations
Feel free to answer these questions as many times as you want. Everyone has a different view of happiness so you shouldn’t feel pressured to answer as many times as I did. The key to this activity is to allow your responses to flow naturally. Write down the first things that come to mind. When you are done, take some time to reflect on your responses.
When I took a moment to review my responses I realized that happiness for me seems to revolve around my desire to have a purpose, to learn from others and from myself, and to have the freedom to make my own way in this world without allowing negative people or influences to steer me off course. I also realized that not one of my answers revolved around acquiring any type of material possession. As many individuals are these days, I sometimes allow myself to be consumed by the concept of having and gaining material possessions to demonstrate my success. When I reviewed my responses last night I saw that deep down none of those things really had significance for me. They may be something I strive to attain every once in a while, but they do not define or create happiness for me.
As this year draws closer to an end, i think this exercise would be helpful in determining ones desire for the new year. To identify what truly brings you happiness and to work towards those things each and everyday. Wishing you all a very happy and healthy holiday.
-Ambition In The City-
“Happiness depends upon ourselves.” Aristotle