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Happiness Challenge Day 4

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September 11th, Day 4 of the Happiness Challenge

1. Music makes me happy. It always amazes me how a particular song can impact me in such a powerful way. No matter where I am, certain songs have a way of transporting me back in time. Whether they help me to remember a loved one or empower me to keep fighting the good fight, music has a very special place in my heart. I still remember all the songs I used to listen to during those long drives with my mom on our mommy, daughter days. The song that was playing when I first got my heart-broken and the songs that remind me of those people who are longer by my side. Music comforts me in times of struggle and bring me closer to my power when I feel as though my situation appears hopeless. No matter the style of music, I can always I can always count on its ability to move me. I admire the individuals who create such works of art and I appreciate them for bringing such beauty to this world.

“Music gives a soul to the universe, wings to the mind, flight to the imagination
and life to everything.” Plato

2. Embracing my emotions makes me happy. As a cancer I am by nature an emotional person. Rarely can I ever hold back  or hide the way I feel. Often sympathetic to other feelings, I struggle at times with the idea that I must take on others emotions as my own. While I recognize this within myself it is not an easy task to master. Everyday I welcome the emotions that stir from within me. I embrace and acknowledge them in the moment and do my very best to share my feelings whenever appropriate. Ignoring or pushing these feelings down has never served me. Historically it has only led me to brood over the things that make me unhappy. This only serves as a barrier to forward movement. Today I consistently practice embracing my truth. Whether pleasant or unpleasant our emotions are meant to be heard. They guide us to authenticity and to greater learning.

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart” Helen Keller

3. Practicing self-love make me happy. As a life coach I encounter quite a number of people whom struggle to love themselves. “I am not enough” is often a common theme I hear coming from individuals. Practicing self-love takes a lot of effort in a society that is constantly comparing you to others. Stepping out as a unique individual takes courage. I find that tag lines and mantra’s often aid me in my practice towards self-love. It is easy to fall into the habit of being overly critical of oneself, but it takes practice and patience to acknowledge the good we all have within us. Everyday I choose an area or quality in myself that needs attention and love. I focus my energy on building that area up and giving it the love and support it needs to overcome any of my negative thought patterns. I will repeat these positive words to myself from the start of my day. It sets the tone for the way I show up to the world and in addition, how I show up for myself. Learning to love oneself is not selfish in any way. It is healthy and absolutely necessary. We should be our greatest supporters and we should love who we are no matter what. 

“Dare to love yourself as if you were a rainbow with gold at both ends.” Aberjhani 

 “I am powerful in my love for myself. The truth of my being is I love myself exactly as I am. I honor my empowered heart.” Amy Leigh Mercree

 

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Ponder This…

What will you STOP rejecting and what will you START embracing? 

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Do Stuff!!

Get out there and do stuff that matters! Go big, be bold and above all stop waiting for opportunities to present themselves. Create the life you want today! – Happy Matters LLC

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The Cracked Pot: A Story of Purpose

A friend of mine recently shared this story with me and the moment I heard it, I knew I wanted to share it with you all. Whether this is your first time reading this story, or if you have come across it before, the story of The Cracked Pot is a great reminder of  individual uniqueness and purpose. We each come to this world with different flaws and sometimes it’s hard for us to see the good that  exists beyond those flaws.  We are all cracked pots.  This story helps to remind us that we need to take the time to appreciate each other for the beautiful, unique creatures that we are; to acknowledge the good that exists within all of us and to celebrate each others purpose because we all have one. Wishing you all a pleasant day. Hopefully this story will resonate with a few of you.

crackedpot origA waterbearer in India had two large pots, one hung on each end of a pole, which she carried across her neck.

One of the pots had a crack in it. While the other pot was perfect, and always delivered a full portion of water at the end of the long walk from the stream to the mistress’s house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the bearer delivering only one and a half pots full of water to her master’s house.

The perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments, perfect to the end for which it was made. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it was able to accomplish only half of what it had been made to do.

After two years of what it perceived to be a bitter failure, it spoke to the water bearer one day by the stream: “I am ashamed of myself, and I want to apologize to you.”

Why?” asked the bearer. “What are you ashamed of?”

“I have been able, for these past two years, to deliver only half my load because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your mistress’s house. Because of my flaws, you have to do all of this work, and you don’t get full value from your efforts,” the pot said.

The water bearer felt sorry for the old cracked pot, and in her compassion she said, “As we return to the mistress’s house, I want you to notice the beautiful flowers along the path.”

Indeed, as they went up the hill, the old cracked pot took notice of the sun warming the beautiful wild flowers on the side of the path, and this cheered it some.

But at the end of the trail, it still felt bad because it had leaked out half its load, and so again it apologized to the bearer for its failure.

The bearer said to the pot, “Did you notice that there were flowers only on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side?

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“That’s because I have always known about your flaw, and I took advantage of it. I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back from the stream, you’ve watered them.

“For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate my mistress’s table. Without you being just the way you are, she would not have this beauty to grace her house.”

Moral: Each of us has our own unique flaws. We’re all cracked pots.

But it’s the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding. We’ve just got to take each person for what they are, and look for the good in them.

There’s a lot of good out there.

By Sacinandana Swami

“Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it” -Gautama Buddha

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Keep Moving Forward

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It’s not always easy to leave things in the past but we can never truly heal until we open our eyes to all that is still ahead of us. What are you looking forward to? 

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Ponder This…

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How often are you pausing to recharge and reboot your mind? 

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It’s been said, that everybody needs time to rejuvenate, refresh, recharge and begin again.

Every so often we life coaches like to coach one another. This practice not only helps us to keep our skills sharp but it also helps us to remember we are human just like everyone else and not exempt from regular day to day struggles. This morning I had a wonderful coaching session with my friend and fellow colleague Sarah. In this coaching session I came to the realization with her that I am long overdue for a recharge and reboot. The low battery life alert had been flashing in my mind for days now, but I kept ignoring it. As I shared with her the internal struggle I had been wrestling with, it hit me that I was putting too much energy on things that are secondary to my authentic purpose and passion. As we discussed the physical and mental toll sacrificing my interests and talents was taking on me, I started to feel a weight lift off my shoulders. I began to take ownership of the choices I had been making over the course of these past few days and I acknowledged that my desire to please others had overpowered my desire to be happy and at peace with myself. This resulted in me realizing that I had been running on autopilot. I had been floating along for the past few days crossing item after item off of my to-do list, never feeling all that satisfied with the days progress. I found myself feeling exhausted and frustrated at the end of every day. “I would rather be…” kept popping up in my mind as I floated from one task to the other. I was using up all of my energy to tackle things that had little if anything to do with growing my coaching practice, blogging or working on my art. Upon exploration and with the help of some visualization exercises I realized that my mind was being pulled in several different directions and that it was running on fumes at this point.

After my session, I committed to giving my mind the time it needed to rest and regroup. I paused and let my mind settle. What is important? What can wait? What is no longer serving me? What would you like to do in this moment? As I meditated around these questions today I felt my mind coming back to full power. I felt invigorated and inspired to put more of my energy and focus on the things that mattered to me most. Those things that bring me alive.  My original outlook of the day shifted and as this Wednesday, March 5th draws to a close I feel accomplished and content. I was able to coach a few clients, write this blog post, and will be finishing up a painting before this night is through. That’s a beautiful thing.

Remember to be patient with yourself. The energy that our mind supplies should be nurtured and cared for. This is our essence. When we neglect the messages our mind and body relay to us, we deny our authentic self from being heard. Listen to the messages being transmitted and take the time every so often to recharge and reboot your life.

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Ponder This…

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What would your life be like if you lived these words everyday?

How would it feel to live from a place of love?

What adventures would you experience if “Yes” was a word you were never afraid to use?

What have you got left to learn?

Is there more love for you to give?

Are you living the life that you yearn to live?

 

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Maintaining A Youthful Spirit

“Youth is happy because it has the capacity to see beauty. Anyone who keeps the ability to see beauty never grows old.” – Franz Kafka

The video of this wonderful grandmother brings a smile to my face every time I watch it. Not only is she just the sweetest thing I have ever seen, but what I love about her the most is her youthful spirit. I am a firm believer that age is nothing but a number. It is a concept that succeeds at making us believe  we need to give certain things up as we get older. Whether it’s trading in our sense of humor for a more serious way of thinking, or sacrificing our sense of adventure out of fear that others will think we’re crazy, we are always convincing ourselves that our age should somehow dictate how we behave.

“Nobody grows old merely by living a number of years.  We grow old by deserting our ideals.  Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul.’  -Samuel Ullman

I say let’s keep our youthful enthusiasm and spirit for as long as we possibly can! Stop telling yourself you’re too old to do and be what you want. Keep smiling and laugh when you feel like it. Breath in all that life has to offer as you tackle the day with energy and youthful vigor. We are only as old as we feel, so be silly, be curious and continue to be as creative as you were when you looked at the world through 5-year-old eyes. It is possible to maintain a youthful spirit, you just have to make the conscious decision to think young.

“There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.” -Sophia Loren

Remember that there are still adventures to be had, still lessons to be learned, and powerful transformations yet to be experienced. Think young and reinvent your spirit each and every day. As Mark Twain said, “Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been.” As we get older we tend to resent the way we look. We find ourselves making comments like “I used to be handsome” or “I used to be so active”. Getting older doesn’t mean you that you cease to be what you once were. We are still the same person inside and we can reclaim that person anytime we want. Older individuals tend to love story telling. They enjoy sharing their life experiences with younger folks because it’s almost like they get to relive the experience all over again. Why not tap into that energy more often? Think young more and reconnect with that energy and aliveness you once had. Take a risk and try to do something you once did when you were younger. What would it be like to dance salsa again with your partner? What would it be like to put on a red dress and get dolled up? You’re not too old. You’ve got a lot of life yet to live. The problem is you have to start believing that you too deserve to live life to the fullest.

Live life to the fullest by extinguishing the idea that you are too old to live the life that you want. Break free of this limiting belief and permit yourself to get reacquainted with that younger version of yourself that always saw possibility. That version of you that knew how to live because they did the things that made their hearts sing. While our faces will surely carry a wrinkle or two as time goes by, our spirit has the potential to remain ageless. The ship has not sailed when it comes to maintaining a youthful spirit. Your youth has been waiting patiently for you at the dock this whole time. Step into your power today reconnecting with that youthful spirit. There is no time like now to realize that you’ve still got it in you to be young at heart. Keep living and take it from the beauty in the video above, life is still fun no matter your age.

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Where We are is Where we Need to Be

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I never realized how blessed I was until I truly started living in the present. It was only when I started functioning from my spirit that I truly began to see the life that I had in front of me. I took notice of the love and affection, the laughter and joy, the beauty of the world around me, and the ambitions and talents that exist in my life. Today my spirit and my heart guide me. Where my head was once the sole captain of my journey, I now permit the voices of my true center to man the ship that will take me where I need to be. Taking inventory of my life has led me to this wonderful discovery. Listening more and second guessing less has enabled the voices of my spirit to emerge and reclaim their power. Their is wisdom from within that is just waiting to be given its proper audience. Will you listen? Will you take notice?

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Live in the Present

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Practice the art of slowing down today. Take a moment to notice the sights and sounds of the world around you. Allow for your senses to heighten and revel in the sensations that emerge as you permit yourself to become one with the present. Be kind to yourself today and take notice of now

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