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Cristina Reyeros Coaching

Do you find yourself at a crossroads in life and are in search of some clarity and direction? I am looking to build my life coaching practice with open-minded  and highly motivated individuals eager to be agents of change in their own lives. I am offering a complimentary life coaching session to all friends, family and acquaintances interested in unlocking the best version of themselves. If you feel that you are ready and willing to step into your power by awakening your creativity and curiosity then take the first step towards change and email me at creyeros@gmail.com 

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“Magic is a sudden opening of the mind to the wonder of existence. It is a sense that there is much more to life than we usually recognize; that we do not have to be confined by the limited views that our family, our society, or our own habitual thoughts impose on us; that life contains many dimensions, depths, textures, and meanings extending far beyond our familiar beliefs and concepts.” ~ John Welwood

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Liebster Award: Thank You For This Nomination

I’d like to thank PermacultureProcess for nominating my blog for the Liebster Blog Award. I feel so humbled by this sweet gesture. I enjoyed answering your fun questions and also appreciate having this opportunity to nominate blogs that I have been admiring for the past few months. I am so proud of my blog and hope that it continues to touch people in a positive way. Thank you again.

Rules of the Liebster Award:

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1. Thank your Liebster Blog Award presenter on your blog and link back to their blog.

2. Answer the 11 questions from the nominator, list 11 random facts about yourself and create 11 questions for your nominees.

3. Present the Liebster Blog Award to 11 bloggers who you feel deserve to be noticed. These blogs must have 200 followers or less. Leave a comment on their blog to let them know they’ve been nominated by you.

4. Copy and paste the blog award on your blog. Post all the items listed in item 2 on your blog also.

My Responses to PermacultureProcess:

1. Do you have a  Bucket List… and why?

I do have a bucket list. I have a great many ambitions in life and I hope to work towards each and every one of them. It’s always nice to have your dreams and hopes written down. They serve as a friendly reminder of what holds value for you. Sometimes we need to be reminded of these types of things. It’s very easy to get lost in ones fast paced life and I find my bucket list helps to keep me grounded.  I like to look it over every once in a while to bring me back to the things I want to experience most in life. Whether the items on my list are small or large the feeling one gets from crossing something off of their bucket list is amazing! This year ill be crossing two items off and that’s a beautiful thing.

2. (if YES to no. 1) – What’s the last thing you crossed off your bucket list?

The last thing I crossed off my bucket list was to visit Paris. This came off the list about a year and a half ago. Paris was a place I had wanted to visit since childhood, so it was amazing to finally have the opportunity to go. Since this trip I have added several new destinations I would like to someday see. Anything is possible you just have to believe it. 222721_591009929522_3610874_n

3. What personality trait do you love the most about yourself?

I have to say my ambition is a personality trait I love most. It has pushed me to strive towards making a difference in this world and  it empowers me each and everyday to work at becoming the best possible version of myself that I can be.

4. Do you like where you work right now?

I enjoy where I work very much. No day is the same, which I love, and I get to help children and families to experience positive changes in their lives. No matter where life takes me career wise I will be content as long as the position enables me to help others.

5. What’s the last thing you photographed? (With iPhone or otherwise)

The last thing I photographed was my dog/son Samuel. He turned 12 on February 26th and I just love him to bits. I have had Sam since he was a puppy. He has been by my side through some very tough times. He is just one of those little men that will always have a special place in my heart. 2006_752578380052_555266810_n

6. Why do you blog?

I blog because I want to explore my new-found passion for writing and for sharing my thoughts and life experiences with others. While I aspire to someday be an impactful transformational coach, I have come to realization that my writing may in someway help to coach people whom I may never meet. Whether they are impacted by the content of my blog or by a few comments we might share with one another,  is my lives goal to help others look at life with wonder and curiosity.

7. What’s your favorite hobby?

Writing has become my all time favorite thing in the last few months. I can write just about anywhere so I try to take advantage when inspiration strikes. Throughout my day you can be sure that I always have a notebook and pen handy. I have really come to enjoy this hobby over the last few months and cannot wait to see where this new found passion takes me.

8. How would you “spiritually” describe yourself?

I’m slowly coming into my own when it comes to spirituality. I believe there is power in all of us and that it should be cherished and nurtured. As I begin to dive deeper and deeper into myself I am uncovering a new-found interest in spirituality and wonder. This curiosity is all very new to me but I am embracing it and letting it guide me to unchartered territory. Where the journey will lead me I do not know, but I am excited to find out.

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9. What did you eat for breakfast? 

Oatmeal with strawberries, blueberries, and bananas with a cup of chai tea. It was delicious!

10. What are your minor addictions? (ie. coffee, foodm bloggin…lol)

BREAD!! It’s so bad, but its so good at the same time. 🙂

11. Who is currently your favorite singer/band?

John Legend is my favorite singer. I adore his music. His lyrics are just so beautiful and honest. I can listen to him everyday.

11 Random Facts about me:

1. I will be learning how to swim this summer. (An item that has been on my bucket list for  a while now.)

2. I will be traveling to the Amalfi Coast this coming May. (Another item that has been on my bucket list for almost 10 years now.)

3. I have a 12 year old Bichon Frise named Samuel that I absolutely adore.(Picture above. My little cutie! )

4. I prefer summer to winter. The cold drives me crazy and I dislike wearing layers very much.

5. I am currently reading 6 books. I have never done this before but it feels great! I’m learning a lot.

6. I am a mommys girl all the way. I love you mom!

7. I am the baby in my family. I have two older brothers that I couldn’t live without.

8. I recently celebrated my 3 year anniversary with my boyfriend. Love you!

9. I love cycling and cannot wait for spring so I can ride my bike along the West Side Highway again.

10. I love all things Disney. I have visited Disney World at least once a year for the last 28 years.

11. I have a Masters of Science in Psychology and am a certified Child Life Specialist.

My 11 Questions for my nominees are:

1.Whats the best book you’ve read recently?

2.Why do you blog?

3. What have you learned recently that you would like to share with others?

4.If you could travel anywhere in the world where would you go and why?

5.What would you say is your greatest accomplishment in life thus far?

6.What is your favorite childhood toy?

7.What’s your favorite season?

8.What’s one or your favorite family traditions?

9. What’s one of your favorite guilty pleasures?

10. What did you have for dinner?

11.What do you want to be when you grow up?

My 11 Nominees Are:

1. http://stephaniedunn86.wordpress.com from My Universe Within

2.http://jaymoli.wordpress.com from Echoes of the Heart

3.http://awesomeelo.wordpress.com from Awesome Elo Life, Hope and The Pursuit of Happiness

4.http://bloggingonthebrightside.wordpress.com from Blogging on The Brightside

5.http://inspirationenergy.wordpress.com from Inspirationenergy

6.http://kashaglazebrook.com from The Divine Daily

7.http://thinkrainbows.com from Think Rainbows

8. http://mysteriouslyquiet.wordpress.com from It’s My Life Step By Step Toward Happiness

9.http://marinixwriter.wordpress.com/page/2/ from Marinixwriter

10.http://implicitjoy.wordpress.com from Implicit Joy

11.http://relaxedsoulhappymind.wordpress.com from Relaxed Soul, Happy Mind

Competition is a …

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As I attended a 6:30 am Bikram yoga class this morning I observed an interesting set of behaviors playing out between my fellow yoga mates. For the purposes of setting the scene, I would like to just mention 6:30 am is not my usual yoga time. I prefer to attend classes at 8:30 am or 9:30 am in order to be in a smaller class setting.  The smaller classes tend to have around 6-9 people in attendance. I like to think these smaller classes provide the attendees with individual attention for learning and growth, hence my reason for liking them. Might I also mention the added bonus, this particular type of yoga is practiced in a room that usually reaches temperatures of or around 105 degrees.  Not an ideal setting for a packed class if you ask me but let’s get back to my story.

As I attended this mornings packed session I came to the realization that the smaller class attendees are less inclined to compete. Not so sure if this is a good or bad thing but I would love for my readers to share their insights.

So here’s what I observed. This  mornings class had around 20 attendees. It was packed with students stretched from wall to wall. As the class was getting ready to begin, a yoga mate made a comment about how the packed classes tend to motivate him more. He said that the added pressure to keep a pose in front of all the other students kept him focused. He then added that he would never want to be the first student to fall out of a position let alone sit out for one of the poses. I looked to see the reaction of other students and i was pretty shocked to see several people nodding in agreement. This interaction really made me think.balancing stick

Now I haven’t been a yoga practitioner for very long but I can recall what drew me to the practice. Yoga is typically practiced to center ones mind. It is said that yoga promotes the stilling of the mind’s disturbances so you can experience life at its deepest and most profound levels.  It is practiced to relieve the stress and tension of ones daily routine in order to  promote a more peaceful state conducive to confidence, grace and calm efficiency in pressured situations.  These are the things that drew me to practicing yoga. I desired a sense of peace and stillness. I yearned for some form of exercise that would not only promote physical health but would impact my mind in a positive way as well. I wanted to reward myself with 90 minutes a day to clear my mind of its daily stresses and devote sometime to just be. No random worries or concerns of the day or week would be allowed to invade my mind during this “alone” time. I would have 90 minutes to break from the worries of my world in exchange for a very gratifying sense of release.

So how does competition come into play? The male student that commented in my class this morning really caused me to question why social settings constantly have a tendency of being just another venue to compete. Must it always be about looking better or being the best? I personally joined yoga for the reasons I mentioned above. If  I were to devote my 90 minutes to looking around the room to see which one of my fellow yoga mates was about to drop first I would be doing myself a huge disservice. I would lose sight of my own progress in the class and in addition I might start to place added pressure on myself to think I’m not doing as well as I should be in comparison to some of the other students.

Now I know a little competition can serve as a motivator for some, but isn’t there a healthier alternative? Being in the moment and building on your own strengths and abilities might prove more beneficial. If you can focus all of your energy on your own actions and allow yourself to be the sole judge of your progress you will begin to see how less critical you are of yourself. Put less of an emphasis on what others might be thinking of you and more emphasis on what you are doing in the moment.  What ever happened to the art of learning? Perhaps learning has become more about learning to have a competitive edge rather than learning for personal growth, development or more simply just for fun. Be confident in your actions and own them. Your strengths, abilities and talents are unique to you and therefore should be embraced. Namaste. Now let’s do yoga in peace! Ambition In The City

“Real learning comes about when the competitive spirit has ceased.” 
-Jiddu Krishnamurti

Embrace Your Own Individuality

“One of the marks of excellent people is that they never compare themselves with others. They only compare themselves with themselves and with their past accomplishments and future potential” -Brian Tracy

Losing sight of your own uniqueness: Never Satisfied, Never Happy

“It is in the character of very few men to honor without envy a friend who has prospered.”― Aeschylus

Envy is best defined as a resentful emotion that “occurs when a person lacks another’s superior quality, achievement or possession and wishes that the other lacked it.”

I had quite a reaction to this definition when I first read it out loud. As I read the words I wondered if I ever really  felt this strongly towards another human being. As I admitted that the answer to this question was YES, I began to ask myself,  where do these feelings come from and how can one  learn to use envy as a motivator rather than a distractor?

Envy often leers its ugly head when we perceive that we are lacking something in our lives that someone else has.  As human beings I think it is easy for individuals to feel envious of other people at one point or another. When we get this sense we tend to look at our own lives with dissatisfaction and thus project our feelings of unhappiness and resentment on the person we would like to compare to. As we focus our energy to think negative thoughts about the other person we lose sight of our own unique abilities, characteristics and accomplishments. By feeding into envy we allow ourselves to be pulled further away from our own potential for success.

So how do we reverse the negative effects of envy to motivate us to be better? Here are some helpful tips to combat the harmful side effects of envy.

  • Recognize and embrace your own individuality 
  • Learn to adopt the mindset that the success of others DOES NOT negate your own.
  • Look to those you admire for inspiration. Appreciate and Emulate.
  • Acknowledge the origin of your envy and use it to motivate you. Instead of letting envy distract you, let your drive to be better motivate you. 
  • Break the habit of making comparisons. Why waste your time comparing yourself to others? There is no better person to do the job of being you than you. 
  • Stay focused. Only you can ensure your own happiness. 
  • Enhance your skill set. Learning doesn’t stop the minute you graduate school. Learn from those around you and seek guidance from the people you want to emulate.
  • Determine a plan of action. How can I be better? Organizing ones plan of action is the first step to achieving the things you want. Be realistic and strategic 
  • Acknowledge  your limitations and learn to adapt. Determine where your strengths and weaknesses lie and make them work for you.
  • Give credit where credit is due. Those who succeed have put in the work. 
  • Give it your best and you will never feel disappointed. 

You are a unique individual with unique abilities and characteristics. There is no other person that is exactly the same as you. When you learn to be content with yourself and with the uniqueness you contribute to this world then and only then will you be truly happy.

“You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.” Friedrich Nietzche

“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.” Friedrich Nietzche 

-Ambition In The City