Ponder This…


“Self-discovery” by Rita Loyd © 2011


Why is it that we can always see the good in others but when asked to describe the good in us we can’t seem to find the words? Self appreciation is healthy and very necessary. Acknowledge the good in you today. Be your biggest fan. 

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Happy Friday

“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” -Steve Maraboli
Take some time over the weekend to get to know yourself more. There’s nothing wrong with carving out a little “me” time. Happy Friday everyone. Have a wonderful weekend. -Happy Matters LLC

Take Time to Care for Your Mind, Body, and Spirit

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Cultivate You



Just as a flower needs sunlight, water, and attention to flourish, so to do our ideas and ambitions. Never forget to water your beautiful ideas. Cultivate the life you want for yourself by giving your ideas the necessary nourishment, attention and care they require. You have the power to make yourself grow in ways you would never think possible. Happy Sunday everyone.

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Ponder This

What are you totally committed to?  What evidence do you have to demonstrate this commitment?


Start taking action towards the things you feel genuinely committed to. Make the choice to step into your power by putting your thoughts into action today. 

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Let It Go

As part of my 30 day Happiness Preservation Challenge I decided to practice the art of letting things go. This morning I was thinking about our tendency to attach to things. Whether we are attaching ourselves to an argument, to a physical object, a mistake we’ve made, or a topic we are passionate about, our tendency is to keep things with us for as long as possible. Why is it so hard for us to let things go? 32a993143874dfd8dd1d4a4649ea7520

This morning as I got dressed for work, I was met with the perfect opportunity to let things go. Feeling not so confident about my appearance, I found myself struggling to pick out an outfit to wear.
The all too familiar words “I can’t find anything to wear!” were coming out of my mouth as I tore through my closet trying outfit after outfit on. As I began to notice the state of my bedroom and took notice of the heat coming off of my face, I realized how frustrated this situation was making me. How can I preserve happiness in this moment, I asked myself. As I stood in front of my closet wearing the only thing I had for sure decided on wearing; my boots, I started to recognize how silly I was being. Was this situation something I needed to drive myself crazy over? Was I really going to let this moment impact the rest of my day?

As I stood there in my boots I decided to step back and regroup. I closed my eyes took a deep breath and searched for a mantra that would help me in this moment. My self-esteem was in question and the feelings associated needed to be acknowledged. I walked to my hallway mirror and took a few moments to look at myself. As I took all of me in I began to smile. I made room for forgiveness to settle in and eventually the mantra I was looking for emerged. “I am committed to loving me.” Much like the mirror exercise developed by Jack Canfield, co-author of The Chicken Soup for the Soul series, I needed acknowledgement in this moment. I repeated these words a few times over as I looked at myself in the mirror. Within minutes, I felt a release from any silly notion I had earlier about my appearance. I chose to let go of the negative and be content instead.

Needless to say, the perfect outfit emerged after I changed my attitude. I felt full of positive energy and was ready to tackle my day with a positive outlook. Once at the office, I offered compliments to a few co-workers as they passed me in the hallway. You never know, they might have been having a not so confident morning themselves.

Embrace choice and keep moving forward. Every second of every day is an opportunity to start anew. It is a chance to change your mind, change your behaviors, and ultimately change the world. When we learn to let things go we make room for what matters to us most. We focus on the good and we show up to the rest of the world in inspirational ways. Commit to letting at least 5 things go today. Below you will find some helpful mantras to assist you as you work to preserve happiness. Stay positive and choose those things that will bring you joy instead.

Mantras to Live By 

  1. I manifest the things that I want by believing in their existence.
  2. I have chosen to believe in me.
  3. I consciously commit to flexibility and detachment.
  4. I release the need to judge or criticize.
  5. I release! I let go! I will let things just be.
  6. I let go of the need to control others. I allow others to make their own way.
  7. I love the woman/man I’m becoming.
  8. I wont worry my life away.
  9. Possessions do not feed my spirit. I am liberated from the desire to hoard things.
  10. I am learning the art of self love.
  11. I let go of my regrets. I am grateful for lessons my past missteps taught me.
  12. I am calm, peaceful and relaxed in body, mind and soul.
  13. I am a survivor.
  14. I am in the process of positive changes.
  15. I am the only thing in my own way.
  16. The universe will provide what I need when I need it.
  17. I am a lovable person.
  18. I am proud of the woman/man I am.
  19. I believe I can be kinder to myself.
  20. I choose to let others opinions of me be their responsibility.
  21. I say goodbye to things in my life that are blocking my spiritual growth.
  22. I will conduct myself in such a way in which I can be proud.
  23. I have much to celebrate.
  24. I am actively becoming a better me.
  25. I am redefining what it means to trust.
  26. I am redefining what is important to me.
  27. I choose to stop apologizing for being me.
  28. I am committed to celebrating the person that I am.
  29. I am committed to loving me.
  30. I choose to highly value my thoughts, opinions, and ideas.
  31. I choose to consciously surround myself with positive influences.
  32. I am capable of making healthy choices.
  33. I am at peace with who I am.
  34. I am in full control of my thoughts and emotions.
  35. I know how to adequately fuel my body.
  36. I am solution minded. Any problem that comes up in life is solvable.
  37. Everything I do is an opportunity to be completely present.
  38. I choose to believe in me.
  39. I am whole, capable and resourceful.
  40. I commit to listening to my intuition.
  41. I know putting myself first is not about being selfish, it’s about self-care.
  42. I will be led by my dreams.
  43. I will be fueled by passion.
  44. I give myself permission to both fail and succeed.
  45. I have the ability to choose happiness.
  46. I have the ability to see the brighter side.
  47. I am a sexual being capable of extreme intimacy.
  48. I know I am braver that I can see.
  49. My pace is perfect.
  50. I am exactly where I need to be.
  51. Everything happens for a reason.
  52. I am the Divine.
  53. I am the only “sign” I need.
  54. I will surround myself with people who bring out the best in me.
  55. I deserve greatness.
  56. I deserve sublime happiness.
  57. I am deserving of abundance.
  58. I consciously choose love above all else.
  59. I am capable of great kindness.
  60. I believe in all of my abilities.
  61. Today, I choose me.
  62. I am in control of my thoughts.
  63. I choose to live in freedom over fear.
  64. I am motivated by peace.
  65. I recognize that my past does not have to define me.
  66. I define myself by my character not my circumstance.
  67. I have abundant courage.
  68. I have the ability to persevere.
  69. I am a confident communicator.
  70. I am a badass.

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30 Day Happiness Challenge

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions” – Dalai Lama

I started my day with the intention to preserve happiness. To preserve it within myself as well as within others. It has been said that happiness when shared with others can have a profound impact. Happiness is contagious. Spreading almost like a virus, there is no telling how many people your positive mood can touch. Today I wanted to be that carrier of happiness. I committed to expanding my reach and letting my joy extend out to others. As my day got off and running this morning, I realized fairly quickly that while happiness can have be contagious so too can negative emotions. This was going to be harder then I thought. My first test in preserving happiness presented itself at the dry cleaners.

While visiting my local dry cleaners this morning I witnessed the maltreatment of a staff member by a very rude customer. With other patrons looking on as this man insulted and berated the young woman behind the counter, I felt my blood begin to boil. How was this going on in front of so many people and not one person appeared the least bit bothered by it? As I stood on line hearing this man address this woman in such an awful and demeaning way, I couldn’t resist the urge to right the wrong that was being done. As this man completed his transaction with the young woman, I approach the counter. As their unfortunate exchange came to a close,  I addressed the woman and her manager. As the man quickly walked out of the dry cleaners unfazed by his behavior, I apologized to the woman and the manager for this persons inappropriate and unnecessary rudeness.  I expressed my gratitude for their service and informed them that I have always appreciated the great work they do. As they humbly accepted my compliments, I noticed the discomfort they felt having someone acknowledge what had just transpired. They reluctantly informed me that this particular man was a frequent customer and that he was consistently rude to all the staff members. They feared that if they addressed his behavior in the moment that they would be risking their jobs, so instead, they succumbed to the abuse and let it persist among the staff.  Baffled by this logic I felt terrible for these individuals. They permitted abuse out of fear that addressing it would lead to their employment being terminated. What an unfortunate and sad reality I thought to myself.  How can we people exert their power in such a negative way?  I apologized once again before leaving the establishment and wished them a good day. I can only hope the days patrons would treat them with more respect.

Its been a few hours since this experience and I can’t seem to get it out of my head. Has it become a normal practice to spread our negative mood to innocent bystanders ? What makes us think that it is OK to use our power in such a way. I started to replay the mornings events back in my mind. This individual went out of his way to impose his sour mood on this woman at the dry cleaners. Rather then leave his issue and  negative emotions at the door he chose to spread his feelings to anyone that came in his path. Was this an easy decision for him to come to? Was he even aware that he was doing it?

As I continued to ponder the mornings events, I looked for feedback from a few colleagues around my office. Each of them shared similar experiences they had encountered in their lives. They described their unfortunate exchanges with negative individuals and how these individuals actions had an impact on their day. They found that they often dwelled on the experience and in turn felt a similar negative emotion. While it didn’t always result in them acting out towards others they stated that the damage had already been done and the negative mood had successfully spread onto them.

Why is it so easy to spread negativity and so difficult to spread positivity? 

In asking myself and others this question a challenge came to mind. What if we committed to being more mindful of our mood and its power to impact others?  This power can be harnessed for good if we just checked in with ourselves more often. If  our mood determines our actions then I want to commit to taking back the control over my mood.

Today I decided that I am going to challenge myself and any readers interested in partaking in what I am calling “The Happiness Preservation Challenge” I commit for the next 30 days to preserve happiness through my actions. I will extend kindness to all those I encounter. I will show my appreciation and gratitude towards others at every opportunity, and I will remember to check in with my emotions as they show up.  Today I commit to taking notice of my emotions in the hope that I will show up to myself and others as a proud carrier of happiness.  I commit to being fully present with whatever emerges from within me.  While negative emotions are sure to emerge, I will not carry them with me throughout the day or impose them onto others. Instead, I will store them in a container marked  “biohazard” to be later acknowledged and ultimately discarded.  I chose to take a stand against the spread of negativity and the unnecessary maltreatment of others. My mood is and the actions attributed to my mood are within my control. I can preserve happiness.  

Challenge yourself to be a carrier of happiness  for the next 30 days. It is within your control to treat others the way you wish to be treated so be sure to do your part. While we we can’t always control how others will treat us, we can control how we respond to their misguided actions. Respond to these individuals with kindness rather then anger. Step into your power and model the behaviors you wish to see from these individuals. Preserve happiness by staying true to your values. You never know, your response today might have a life changing effect on others tomorrow. Will you accept this challenge?


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