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Entertain the Possibilities: Just Start

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Deciding to take action towards a goal or hidden ambition can be intimidating for just about anyone. When there is no telling what will come of your efforts, we are often hesitant to try something new.

Regardless if you are on the cusp of quitting your current job, entering a new relationship, or are just unclear as to where your life is headed; decisions and actions are a part of everyday life.  With every passing minute we are making decisions for our lives. While some decisions are fairly straightforward and simple, others require a lot more thought and preparation. How naturally does decision-making come to you?

Are you an over thinker?

Do you generally take significant risks without looking back?

Do you like to test the waters before deciding to dive in head first?

No matter your style, making decisions that can alter the course of your life is no simple feat.

One thing that my parents always used to tell me, which remains true to this day, is that we’ve got to start somewhere. When it comes to decision-making no matter how large or small, the decision to just start is just as important as the result you’re looking to achieve. “Life is a journey, not a destination.” Ralph Waldo Emerson When we can give ourselves permission to just start playing with an idea or ambition we tap into our courage, confidence and choice. We push aside any negative thoughts we might have and we create a space for our curiosity and creativity to emerge.

Possibilities and natural openings can only be seen when we clear away the clutter of our negative thought patterns. Think positive thoughts and the right path will start to present itself.

Here are a few tips on how you can just start:

Create a “To don’t List” 

Taking the first steps into the unknown is scary, but what’s even scarier is settling for the dissatisfying, safe and redundant. When you find yourself at a crossroads and you’re looking for a change it’s important that you first acknowledge those things you know you don’t want to take with you on the rest of this journey. Pack only those things you know will serve you. Starting something new often requires that you unload some of the old things that have burdened you for too long. When drafting this list be sure to include any limiting beliefs you know you currently hold that will only succeed in keeping you small. When we unload what’s been weighing us down we stand a bit taller, and see a bit clearer. Pack lightly. Negativity will weigh down but positivity has the power to propel you forward.

“Accept the fact that you are the pivot along which the loads of your efforts will turn. Acknowledge yourself as the chairperson at the center of affairs management for your dreams. Take the chair and be at the fore-front.” Israelmore Ayivor

Take an inventory of the things you value

Every so often I ask my clients to take an inventory of their values. This is a great way to get a visual of those things that matter to you the most. Values impact the way you live and work. They guide your actions and impact the decisions you make on a consistent basis. When you take inventory of your values you give yourself permission to review what course your life is currently taking. You examine if your actions are in alignment with your values and you give yourself an opportunity to make changes where necessary. When was the last time you reflected on the things you value most? Next time you start to feel like your life has gotten off course make a list of the things you value and take a look at how your values are matching, or, not matching up with the everyday actions you are taking. This is a great way to reprogram your life and refocus your energy on being true to yourself.

“Your beliefs become your thoughts, 
Your thoughts become your words, 
Your words become your actions, 
Your actions become your habits, 
Your habits become your values, 
Your values become your destiny.” 
Mahatma Gandhi

Celebrate Small Victories

There is no victory too small that doesn’t merit some degree of acknowledgment. All too often we get in the habit of just focusing our energy on the END PRODUCT. Never stopping to acknowledge the minor victories that have gotten us to where we are today, we lose sight of the all important steps that lead us to our biggest achievements. By practicing being fully present we can slow ourselves down to take notice of these moments. These are the moments that help to keep us going. Small victories serve as a ray of hope when we find ourselves feeling overwhelmed or disempowered. Next time you find yourself working towards a long-term goal devise a list of the short-term goals you might organically achieve along the way. These goals help to recharge your batteries and help to keep your momentum and ambition alive. When you decide to take those first steps towards a new goal or ambition you already have cause to celebrate. You are listening to your future self and acknowledging that the journey you are about to embark on is necessary for your personal development. Your goals are deeply connected to your values and so keep them always at the forefront of your mind. Revisit those things you value the most, take the first step towards a goal and see things through till their completion. Celebrate these moments. It takes courage to take action and these actions no matter how big or small merit your acknowledgement and celebration.

“Nothing grows in the shadow of want without the sunlight of acknowledging your fullness.” Bryant McGill

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If you’re not doing what you love, you’re wasting your time.

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Recently I read a wonderful article written by the founder of Muse. In this article the author asks its readers to ponder the concept of saving ones time by doing less. I am all about using my time wisely so I was immediately drawn to this article and the helpful tips it provided.

In reading Saving time by doing LESS, I believe the most impactful statement made by Alex Cavoulacos was that people need to begin acknowledging “what not to do, and what to stop doing in order to lead happier and more productive lives.” I happen to agree 100%.

As a life coach I think it’s important that people take a regular inventory of their daily tasks and responsibilities to decipher between the things they feel are really important vs. the things that are secondary to their happiness and ultimate productivity. We are constantly allowing ourselves to be pulled in a hundred different directions. What this habit often results in, is us being dissatisfied with where our choices have taken us and to regret those things we have yet to accomplish. Putting ourselves second by taking on what could ultimately be delegated to someone else or just removed entirely from our priority list only results in us drifting further and further from our highest potential. What should you be doing with your valuable time?

If you find yourself putting things off over and over again this is not an indication that you are a procrastinator, this could merely be a sign that this task is just not as important as you originally thought. Stick to doing what makes you feel alive and gives you purpose. These are the things that will make you get out of bed an hour early just to get a head start. It is these things that keep you up at night so you can add just one final touch to make it perfect. “If you are not doing what you love you’re wasting your time.” Billy Joel   photo-copy

What tasks and various ambitions keep your mind occupied in a positive and productive way? These are the things that are important to you. These are the things you are willing to put the time and effort into protecting and nurturing. As Alex Cavoulacos describes in her article it is important that we ask ourselves the questions she highlighted as they can aid us in gaining insight into how we are using our time.

Take some time to reflect on the decisions you make today and the tasks you decide to tackle. Are these tasks and responsibilities benefiting your ultimate growth and evolution or are they satisfying someone else’s agenda? How much more time are you willing to waste on things that aren’t necessarily important to you.

The more you permit yourself to engage in the things that matter to you most, the more you will recognize that your time is not being monopolized, but optimized. When we engage in things that matter to us we spend more time enjoying our lives and less time wondering what if our situation was different. Do yourself a favor and save time by doing more of what you love and less of what you don’t.

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Happiness Challenge Day 6-7

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September 13-14 Day 6 and 7 of the Happiness Challenge    

I am sorry for not submitting my last two happiness posts on time. I was sick over the weekend and was just not feeling up to blogging. While I was sick I did have an opportunity to recognize another important part of my life that makes me extremely happy. My mom! While my boyfriend was out of town this weekend I got to spend some quality time with my mom. Unfortunately for her I was sick, but she didn’t seem to mind too much. Regardless, we were able to make the best of a sickly situation and had a great time together. My mom took wonderful care of me and worried about me the entire time. Being that I am pregnant my options for treating my sore throat were limited. Mom was quick to make me as many home remedies as she could think of. She was brilliant and really helped to make me feel better. Over the weekend we were able to share one of our good old fashioned mommy daughter days. We went shopping; we ate yummy food, watched tearjerker movies and stayed up late together. It was just like the good old days. Even though I was sick I loved every minute of it. download (2)

Moms just always know what to do to make their kids feel better. I have such a great respect for my mom. She is always thinking and worrying about others. While I constantly encourage her to make sure she stops to do things for herself it is just in her nature to want to care for her kiddies and make sure they are alright. As I get closer and closer to becoming a mommy in the next few months, I now recognize that these qualities will no doubt pass on to me. I am already so in love with my little man and he’s just hanging out in my belly. I look forward to caring for him and spending lots of time creating lovely memories with him. While he probably won’t be into watching those tearjerkers with me I know we will come up with something unique to us that we can share together. These special moments are what life is all about.

“To describe my mother would be to write about a hurricane in its perfect power. Or the climbing, falling colors of a rainbow.” —Maya Angelou

“A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” ―Washington Irving

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Dream. Believe. Unlock

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Last week I was inspired by a post entitled Are you setting goals for 2014? Conceptualize instead written by my friend Miisa Mink from Driven Woman. In this post Miisa shared with her readers the idea of trading in New Year’s resolutions for three concepts that will push people towards action. Miisa expressed that rather than creating a list of goals this year, why not identify three words that describe what you want to achieve or how you want to feel during the year. In her post she gives the example of a person wanting to lose weight for the New Year. Instead of listing a new year’s resolution such as “I will to lose weight”, why not use a word that will motivate you to take action. In Miisa’s post she used the word “green” to represent what this person would need to eat if they really wanted to achieve their desired weight loss goal. In reading this post I was inspired to share the three words that have been motivating me to take action for the past 2 years. If you’ve got three words of your own please visit Miisa’s post and share your feedback.

If you are a frequent visitor of Ambition in the City you have probably seen me include the words dream, believe and unlock on several of my blog posts. Over the past 2 years these words have slowly evolved into what is now my coaching motto. I started to recognize how often I would use these words in my coaching and writing when I wanted to inspire clients and readers towards action. What I have discovered over time is that these words have aided me to not only make significant changes in my own life, but they have helped several of my clients and readers to reconnect with their courageconfidence and choice.  As we get this new year off and running I hope that you can find inspiration in these three little words and start thinking about words that could possibly start motivating you towards positive change.

Dream

What would life be like if there were no dreamers in the world?  In order to impact change in your life you must be willing to dream. As a life coach, cultivating my client’s curiosity and creativity is always one of my main objectives. It is only when we can tap into that part of ourselves that houses our childish enthusiasm and hunger for exploration that we can truly step into our power. When we are open to dreaming we give ourselves an opportunity to be curious and play. We allow for our thoughts to stretch past the farthest reaches of our imagination and we are given a chance to dive head first into the unknown.

What makes dreamers so unique? Dreamers have the courage to question and explore. They don’t disregard their thoughts, ideas or ambitions, they give these things the space they need to grow and flourish. Dreamers allow their ideas to sprout and take form. When you can approach your dreams with curiosity rather than fear or doubt you muster the courage necessary to believe that whatever you can create in your mind can in fact be made a reality.

“A dreamer will not stop having that dream until it has been fulfilled” -J. Wilson

Believe

What dreamers have that others often lack is the confidence and faith that their dreams have value in this world. When we can attach value to our goals we strengthen their power. We give them significance and purpose in our life and in turn empower ourselves to identify creative and unique methods that will propel us towards action. Dreamers believe in their capacity to create change in their own lives because they recognize the choice that exists for them. It is the choice to see past all limiting beliefs in an effort to embrace possibility.  The dreamer that connects to their courage and confidence see’s no obstacle they can’t overcome. They step confidently into the unknown with an open heart and an open mind because they believe in their mission and purpose in life.

“Humanity does not suffer from the disease of wrong beliefs but humanity suffers from the contagious nature of the lack of belief. If you have no magic with you it is not because magic does not exist but it is because you do not believe in it. Even if the sun shines brightly upon your skin every day, if you do not believe in the sunlight, the sunlight for you does not exist.” – C. JoyBell C.

Unlock

When you acknowledge your dreams and hidden aspirations as significant and worth exploring, you will start to notice the possibilities that begin to emerge all around you. As the doors to a better, happier and more fulfilling life begin to unlock you will come to realize all the possibilities that have existed for you all along. Dreamers succeed because they see past the “what ifs” and the “but only’s” that succeed in keeping so many of us small. They cultivate their beautiful ideas by nurturing them with love and attention, sharing them with others, and by ultimately giving them the room to grow into something beautiful.

This year promise yourself that you are going to dream, that you are going to  believe and that you are going to unlock the life you know you deserve.

 “There is nothing like a dream to create the future.” –Victor Hugo

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Happy Friday

 

 

Happy Friday everyone! Be sure to do something to preserve happiness this weekend. Make your mind to choose happiness over negativity. It is within your control to let go and change. Embrace the choices that exist for you this weekend and choose to do and say things that will bring about positivity. “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” – Mahatma Gandhi77ec0ae302beda5cf95c32b8c69db7f0

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