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Entertain the Possibilities: Just Start

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Deciding to take action towards a goal or hidden ambition can be intimidating for just about anyone. When there is no telling what will come of your efforts, we are often hesitant to try something new.

Regardless if you are on the cusp of quitting your current job, entering a new relationship, or are just unclear as to where your life is headed; decisions and actions are a part of everyday life.  With every passing minute we are making decisions for our lives. While some decisions are fairly straightforward and simple, others require a lot more thought and preparation. How naturally does decision-making come to you?

Are you an over thinker?

Do you generally take significant risks without looking back?

Do you like to test the waters before deciding to dive in head first?

No matter your style, making decisions that can alter the course of your life is no simple feat.

One thing that my parents always used to tell me, which remains true to this day, is that we’ve got to start somewhere. When it comes to decision-making no matter how large or small, the decision to just start is just as important as the result you’re looking to achieve. “Life is a journey, not a destination.” Ralph Waldo Emerson When we can give ourselves permission to just start playing with an idea or ambition we tap into our courage, confidence and choice. We push aside any negative thoughts we might have and we create a space for our curiosity and creativity to emerge.

Possibilities and natural openings can only be seen when we clear away the clutter of our negative thought patterns. Think positive thoughts and the right path will start to present itself.

Here are a few tips on how you can just start:

Create a “To don’t List” 

Taking the first steps into the unknown is scary, but what’s even scarier is settling for the dissatisfying, safe and redundant. When you find yourself at a crossroads and you’re looking for a change it’s important that you first acknowledge those things you know you don’t want to take with you on the rest of this journey. Pack only those things you know will serve you. Starting something new often requires that you unload some of the old things that have burdened you for too long. When drafting this list be sure to include any limiting beliefs you know you currently hold that will only succeed in keeping you small. When we unload what’s been weighing us down we stand a bit taller, and see a bit clearer. Pack lightly. Negativity will weigh down but positivity has the power to propel you forward.

“Accept the fact that you are the pivot along which the loads of your efforts will turn. Acknowledge yourself as the chairperson at the center of affairs management for your dreams. Take the chair and be at the fore-front.” Israelmore Ayivor

Take an inventory of the things you value

Every so often I ask my clients to take an inventory of their values. This is a great way to get a visual of those things that matter to you the most. Values impact the way you live and work. They guide your actions and impact the decisions you make on a consistent basis. When you take inventory of your values you give yourself permission to review what course your life is currently taking. You examine if your actions are in alignment with your values and you give yourself an opportunity to make changes where necessary. When was the last time you reflected on the things you value most? Next time you start to feel like your life has gotten off course make a list of the things you value and take a look at how your values are matching, or, not matching up with the everyday actions you are taking. This is a great way to reprogram your life and refocus your energy on being true to yourself.

“Your beliefs become your thoughts, 
Your thoughts become your words, 
Your words become your actions, 
Your actions become your habits, 
Your habits become your values, 
Your values become your destiny.” 
Mahatma Gandhi

Celebrate Small Victories

There is no victory too small that doesn’t merit some degree of acknowledgment. All too often we get in the habit of just focusing our energy on the END PRODUCT. Never stopping to acknowledge the minor victories that have gotten us to where we are today, we lose sight of the all important steps that lead us to our biggest achievements. By practicing being fully present we can slow ourselves down to take notice of these moments. These are the moments that help to keep us going. Small victories serve as a ray of hope when we find ourselves feeling overwhelmed or disempowered. Next time you find yourself working towards a long-term goal devise a list of the short-term goals you might organically achieve along the way. These goals help to recharge your batteries and help to keep your momentum and ambition alive. When you decide to take those first steps towards a new goal or ambition you already have cause to celebrate. You are listening to your future self and acknowledging that the journey you are about to embark on is necessary for your personal development. Your goals are deeply connected to your values and so keep them always at the forefront of your mind. Revisit those things you value the most, take the first step towards a goal and see things through till their completion. Celebrate these moments. It takes courage to take action and these actions no matter how big or small merit your acknowledgement and celebration.

“Nothing grows in the shadow of want without the sunlight of acknowledging your fullness.” Bryant McGill

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If you’re not doing what you love, you’re wasting your time.

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Recently I read a wonderful article written by the founder of Muse. In this article the author asks its readers to ponder the concept of saving ones time by doing less. I am all about using my time wisely so I was immediately drawn to this article and the helpful tips it provided.

In reading Saving time by doing LESS, I believe the most impactful statement made by Alex Cavoulacos was that people need to begin acknowledging “what not to do, and what to stop doing in order to lead happier and more productive lives.” I happen to agree 100%.

As a life coach I think it’s important that people take a regular inventory of their daily tasks and responsibilities to decipher between the things they feel are really important vs. the things that are secondary to their happiness and ultimate productivity. We are constantly allowing ourselves to be pulled in a hundred different directions. What this habit often results in, is us being dissatisfied with where our choices have taken us and to regret those things we have yet to accomplish. Putting ourselves second by taking on what could ultimately be delegated to someone else or just removed entirely from our priority list only results in us drifting further and further from our highest potential. What should you be doing with your valuable time?

If you find yourself putting things off over and over again this is not an indication that you are a procrastinator, this could merely be a sign that this task is just not as important as you originally thought. Stick to doing what makes you feel alive and gives you purpose. These are the things that will make you get out of bed an hour early just to get a head start. It is these things that keep you up at night so you can add just one final touch to make it perfect. “If you are not doing what you love you’re wasting your time.” Billy Joel   photo-copy

What tasks and various ambitions keep your mind occupied in a positive and productive way? These are the things that are important to you. These are the things you are willing to put the time and effort into protecting and nurturing. As Alex Cavoulacos describes in her article it is important that we ask ourselves the questions she highlighted as they can aid us in gaining insight into how we are using our time.

Take some time to reflect on the decisions you make today and the tasks you decide to tackle. Are these tasks and responsibilities benefiting your ultimate growth and evolution or are they satisfying someone else’s agenda? How much more time are you willing to waste on things that aren’t necessarily important to you.

The more you permit yourself to engage in the things that matter to you most, the more you will recognize that your time is not being monopolized, but optimized. When we engage in things that matter to us we spend more time enjoying our lives and less time wondering what if our situation was different. Do yourself a favor and save time by doing more of what you love and less of what you don’t.

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Happiness Challenge Day 6-7

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September 13-14 Day 6 and 7 of the Happiness Challenge    

I am sorry for not submitting my last two happiness posts on time. I was sick over the weekend and was just not feeling up to blogging. While I was sick I did have an opportunity to recognize another important part of my life that makes me extremely happy. My mom! While my boyfriend was out of town this weekend I got to spend some quality time with my mom. Unfortunately for her I was sick, but she didn’t seem to mind too much. Regardless, we were able to make the best of a sickly situation and had a great time together. My mom took wonderful care of me and worried about me the entire time. Being that I am pregnant my options for treating my sore throat were limited. Mom was quick to make me as many home remedies as she could think of. She was brilliant and really helped to make me feel better. Over the weekend we were able to share one of our good old fashioned mommy daughter days. We went shopping; we ate yummy food, watched tearjerker movies and stayed up late together. It was just like the good old days. Even though I was sick I loved every minute of it. download (2)

Moms just always know what to do to make their kids feel better. I have such a great respect for my mom. She is always thinking and worrying about others. While I constantly encourage her to make sure she stops to do things for herself it is just in her nature to want to care for her kiddies and make sure they are alright. As I get closer and closer to becoming a mommy in the next few months, I now recognize that these qualities will no doubt pass on to me. I am already so in love with my little man and he’s just hanging out in my belly. I look forward to caring for him and spending lots of time creating lovely memories with him. While he probably won’t be into watching those tearjerkers with me I know we will come up with something unique to us that we can share together. These special moments are what life is all about.

“To describe my mother would be to write about a hurricane in its perfect power. Or the climbing, falling colors of a rainbow.” —Maya Angelou

“A mother is the truest friend we have, when trials heavy and sudden fall upon us; when adversity takes the place of prosperity; when friends desert us; when trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us, and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels to dissipate the clouds of darkness, and cause peace to return to our hearts.” ―Washington Irving

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7 Day Happiness Challenge Day 3

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September 10th, 2014 Day 3 of the Happiness Challenge

1. Having a strong support system makes me happy. I am blessed to have a small but very special group of people in my life that I can always looks to for support. They are my shoulders to cry on, my sounding boards to vent to, and my most appreciated teachers. I love them dearly and I could not imagine my life without them. While they don’t always tell me what I want to hear, they tell me what I need to hear and this is invaluable.  I am grateful for their honesty, their empathy, their patience, and above all their unconditional love. Everyone could benefit from having someone in their corner and I’m lucky I have you all. 

“Encourage, lift and strengthen one another. For the positive energy spread to one will be felt by us all. For we are connected, one and all.” Deborah Day

2. Solitude makes me happy. Every so often one just needs a little time to themselves. Some time to regroup, to sit in silence and to reflect on life. I welcome moments like these as they can serve as times of healing. All too often we allow ourselves to be consumed by trivial things that do not serve us. We forget that we too need attention and care. I gift my self with moments of solitude as often as I can. It is good for my soul and it brings forth moments if clarity and renewed energy. 

“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.” Michel de Montaigne

3. Painting makes me happy. Since the start of my pregnancy a lot of my painting has been put on hold. While I have not been able to work on larger scale pieces like I used to, I have been able to work on a few small watercolor images that I hope to one day give to my baby. It brings me to so much joy to paint. I get lost in my projects and time just seems to fly by. While I love seeing the final product I find that The in between time is the most fun. I strategize and play, I make mistakes and realize new options and overall  I just enjoy being in the moment. Art is absolutely magical. It warms my heart to know that the pieces I have created for my son will be hanging in his nursery soon. Mommy made them especially for him and I hope he likes them. Soon enough we’ll be painting together. 

“Painting is the silence of thought and the music of sight.” Orhan Pamuk

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Sunshine Award

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I’d like to thank Nicseventysix’s Blog for nominating me for the sunshine award. This is the first time I am receiving this award and am truly grateful. I invite all my readers to take some time to read nicseventysix’s blog. She had me hooked just from her about page.  You won’t be disappointed. Thanks again Nicseventysix!

Award Rules:

Part of accepting the Award is to nominate 10 People, drop them a lovely comment about them being nominated for the Sunshine Award on their Blogs and post their names and the links of their Blogs in my post

If you’d like to accept this Award, this is how you go about it. 

1. Include the award logo in a post or on your blog.

2. Link to the person who nominated you.

3. Answer 10 questions about yourself and write 10 questions for your nominees to answer.

4. Nominate 10 bloggers to receive the award. Link your nominees to the post and comment on their blogs, letting them know they have been nominated.

My 10 Responses for nicseventysix

1. What’s your favorite place to be?

Earth. I’m having a pretty good time here. :o)

2. Do you play an Instrument, if yes, which one?

When I was younger I played the clarinet. I was in band from elementary school all the way up until Junior High. When I went on to High School I traded band for chorus.  I still have my clarinet but I haven’t played in ages. I’m tempted to try it out and see If I still remember how to play. It might be time to dust off the old clarinet.

3. If you did a sabbatical, what would you do or where would you go?

If I were to go on sabbatical I would paint and write all day long. I would have more time to build my coaching practice and I would even schedule a trip of two to see some more of the world.  A sabbatical sounds really good right about now. 401906_ballonchik_kraski_kreativ_ruka_krasnyj_zhyoltyj_si_1680x1050_www-gdefon-ru

4. What is creativity for you?

“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” ― Albert Einstein When we tap into our creativity we open a door to whats possible for us.  Curiosity + Creativity = Living Fully 

5. Do you like to write handwritten letters, journals and notes, and if yes, why?

I write hand written letters every chance I get. I love sending letters and cards to those people that mean the most to me. It’s a chance to show them how much they mean to me. I take my time to find the right kind of paper or the right card for each individual. My letters come from the heart. They are important to me because I know they are important to the people that are receiving them. ❤

6. Do you have a Motto or a theme song? images (1)

My motto as a life coach is Dream. Believe. Unlock.  We are all capable of making our dreams a reality. In order to do so we must believe in our own capacities. When we believe in ourselves we find the confidence and courage necessary to unlock all the doors to a better future.

7. Do you have a favorite, Kind of “lift-me-up-quote”?

“There is more to life than simply increasing its speed.”  Mahatma Gandhi  I absolutely love this quote. It helps me to always remember to slow down and enjoy each and every moment. Life is about being fully present.

8. Do you do any kind of Meditation practice?

I try to meditate every morning for at least 10-15 minutes. It really helps to start my day off on the right foot. Meditation helps me to connect with my authenticity.

9. Which song, book or film sticks with you for a Long while already?

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The last book I read was the Key to Power and Personal Peace by U. S Anderson. I really enjoyed this book.

10. Which is your favorite kind of landscape? The sea, mountains, Woods or something else? Do have a preference at all?

I adore the sea. I still don’t know how to swim very well but something about being by the sea just makes me happy. I hope to one day live near the ocean.

And the nominees are…

1. The Happsters

2.  joypassiondesire

3. When Ideas Fail

4. SprituallyAwakened

5.  A Spiritual Journey

6. KINDNESS BLOG

7.  PRECIOUS MOMENT LIVING

8.  Personally Speaking

9.  Ideas Matter

10. a heart of adventure

Questions for the Nominees:

1. What goals have you accomplished so far this year?

2. What do you think is your best quality?

3. What was the last compliment you received and what was the last one you paid to someone?

4. What are you looking forward to during the rest of 2013?

5. Do you have a favorite, Kind of “lift-me-up-quote”?

6. What inspired you to start blogging?

7. What is creativity for you?

8. What about yourself do you want to improve?

9. What’s the one thing you can’t live without?

10. What’s your favorite way to relax?

Congrats to the nominees! 

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With Gratitude: A Special Offer

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Sending thoughts of gratitude to all my loyal readers. Ambition In The City continues to grow and it is because of all of you. Thank you for all your positive comments and emails, they inspire my posts and keep me motivated to continue on my journey to inspire and motivate others.   As a token of my appreciation I would like to extend a complimentary coaching session to the first 10 people interested in partaking in a Skype video session. Email me at creyeros@gmail.com to schedule your appointment today.

With gratitude,

Cristina

 

Liebster Award

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I’d like to thank Katie Robinson from Ask The Young Professional for nominating me for the Liebster Award. Thank you for following Ambition In The City and for acknowledging my work with this kind gesture. I really appreciate all the wonderful feedback my readers have posted thus far and I hope that Ambition In The City continues to touch people in a positive way. Thank you once again Katie.

Liebster Award Rules:

1. Thank your Liebster Blog Award presenter on your blog and link back to their blog.

2. Answer the 11 questions from the nominator, list 11 random facts about yourself and create 11 questions for your nominees.

3. Present the Liebster Blog Award to 11 bloggers who you feel deserve to be noticed. These blogs must have 200 followers or less. Leave a comment on their blog to let them know they’ve been nominated by you.

4. Copy and paste the blog award on your blog. Post all the items listed in item 2 on your blog also.

My responses to Ask The Young Professional

1.What qualities matter most to you in a job?

Having creative freedom and a flexible schedule mean a lot to me in my job. I can question and make suggestions and its acceptable to explore new possibilities for growth. The ability to manage my schedule also demonstrates a huge amount of trust and I really appreciate that. When you are respected for what you can bring to the table at a job your dedication and talents tend to shine through more naturally.

2. What is your dream job? 

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My dream job would have to be my coaching career. As a successful transformational coach and inspirational speaker I will get to help people everyday. I aspire to make deep connections with my clients as I assist them to unlock what is authentic and meaningful in their lives.

3. Who are your role models?

I would have to say my parents have and always will be two of my top role models in life. They are two of the most hard-working, dedicated individuals I have ever known. They bring passion and excitement to everything they do and they never cease to amaze me with their undying thirst for knowledge. They inspire me to never stop learning. Every time I think I have studied enough they remind me that my days as a student never come to an end. We are students of life and therefore should continue to pay attention to all the lessons that life presents to us. They are my biggest teachers and I just adore them.

4. What inspires you?  

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A few months ago I might have not been able to answer this question, but recently my perception about what inspires me has really emerged.  Life inspires me.  Everyday I wake up with the desire to learn something new, to share my love with others, and to open my heart to all the good things that are waiting to present themselves to me. I have reconnected with those things that are good and true about myself and am inspired by the universes response to my shift perception. Things are changing for the better because I approach and look at things very differently. I am truly inspired by life.

5. What is your favorite quote?

I have way too many quotes that I adore. Please refer to my favorite quotes page. The list keeps growing and I think that’s a beautiful thing. If you haven’t noticed I am constantly including quotes in my writing. I don’t think this will ever stop. There are just too many inspiring thoughts out there.

6. If you could travel ten years back in time, what advice would you give yourself? 

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Be patient. Stop chasing happiness.  Give it a chance to catch up with you. 🙂

7. What special or unusual skills do you have?

I’m not sure if this is a special or unusual skill, but I like to think I am pretty in tune with my intuition. Whenever I have been faced with a moment where my intuition jumps out and screams at me I tend to follow it. It has gotten me out of some pretty scary moments in my life and I am grateful that I was able to stop myself and just listen.

8. What is your greatest achievement? takeachanc_2o85iqbh_large

My greatest achievement thus far was the day I decided to walk away from my doctoral program in psychology. While in the moment it was a decision I struggled with, I was able to come to the realization that becoming a psychologist wasn’t what I was meant to do.  Deciding to take some time to analyze what I wanted in life was huge for me as I have never walked away from a goal. Looking back on this moment in my life now, I realize what a huge achievement this was for me. It’s hard to walk away from something to go into the unknown, but today I am so grateful I did. My desire in life has always been to help people and today I can honestly say I am getting to do that in my own unique way. Life really has a way of helping you get on the right path. Just be patient and the natural openings for enlightenment will present themselves.

9. What is the most unexpected fact you’ve learned from your job search?

It’s really unfortunate that individuals with graduate degrees and a lot of related job experience are being so underpaid. On the flip side, if you know your worth you can find a way to charter your own course in life. Be creative and perhaps you might discover you have an inner entrepreneur just waiting to come alive.

10. What are your best qualities?

I’m lively and loving. I’m polite and considerate. I’m empathetic and sincere. I’m loyal and honest. I like to live my life with youthful enthusiasm and I am always looking to create lasting memories. I am ambitious and highly self motivated.

11. Who would you want to play you in a movie about your life? witherspoon_narrowweb__200x311

Reese Witherspoon. She is always so bubbly and energetic in the majority of her movie roles. She also seems to have such a cooky personality. Anytime I watch her movies I always find myself smiling from ear to ear. I see a lot of the same personality traits she portrays in her movies within myself. If she doesn’t mind making herself a brunette to play me I would love for her to tell my story one day. 🙂

11 Random facts about me: 

1. I am toying around with the idea of coloring my hair a lighter shade  brown/blonde. I am looking for a fun change for the spring and summer months. Let’s see if I have the guts.

2. I have successfully worked out at least 4-5 times a week in this past month. I hope to keep this momentum going all spring and summer.

3. I am highly anticipating my trip to Disney World this year. It will be my  Disney-World-Charactersboyfriends first time there so I look forward to experiencing that with him.

4. I have been working on the logo for my coaching practice over these past few weeks. I cannot wait to share it with you all once its complete.

5. I wear glasses but am highly considering getting lasik surgery in the next year or so.

6. I want to explore my interest in painting. I have had a few opportunities to make murals for the kids at my job and I loved the experience. I should start painting for fun again.

7. I look forward to this month of change and growth. Lot’s of big things are happening. I plan to embrace it all and enjoy the ride.

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8.I started reading Daring Greatly this week. Thus far I am really enjoying it. I need to remember to add this book  to my running reading list page.

9. I love to sing. I miss the days when I had a car and I used to sing along with my stereo. I can’t carry a tune but it’s still a lot of fun to try.

10. I am terrible at math.

11. I never liked vegetables as a child but as an adult I can’t get enough of them.

And the nominees are…

1. Sorrygnat, World Citizen

2. good enough grace

3. Healthy: A Synonym for Happy

4. BE GREAT BLOG

5. THE GIRL WITH THE SCORPION TATTOO

11 Questions for the nominees

1. What 4 words would you use to describe yourself?

2. What inspires you?

3. What did you want to be when you were little?

4. If you could travel ten years back in time, what advice would you give yourself?

5. Favorite way to spend your day off?

6. If you could own any animal what would it be?

7. Given the choice of anyone, alive or dead, who would you want to have dinner with for an evening?

8. What is the best and worst about blogging?

9. One skill you wish you had!

10. What advice would you give a new writer?

11. What topic should I blog about next?

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