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If you’re not doing what you love, you’re wasting your time.

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Recently I read a wonderful article written by the founder of Muse. In this article the author asks its readers to ponder the concept of saving ones time by doing less. I am all about using my time wisely so I was immediately drawn to this article and the helpful tips it provided.

In reading Saving time by doing LESS, I believe the most impactful statement made by Alex Cavoulacos was that people need to begin acknowledging “what not to do, and what to stop doing in order to lead happier and more productive lives.” I happen to agree 100%.

As a life coach I think it’s important that people take a regular inventory of their daily tasks and responsibilities to decipher between the things they feel are really important vs. the things that are secondary to their happiness and ultimate productivity. We are constantly allowing ourselves to be pulled in a hundred different directions. What this habit often results in, is us being dissatisfied with where our choices have taken us and to regret those things we have yet to accomplish. Putting ourselves second by taking on what could ultimately be delegated to someone else or just removed entirely from our priority list only results in us drifting further and further from our highest potential. What should you be doing with your valuable time?

If you find yourself putting things off over and over again this is not an indication that you are a procrastinator, this could merely be a sign that this task is just not as important as you originally thought. Stick to doing what makes you feel alive and gives you purpose. These are the things that will make you get out of bed an hour early just to get a head start. It is these things that keep you up at night so you can add just one final touch to make it perfect. “If you are not doing what you love you’re wasting your time.” Billy Joel   photo-copy

What tasks and various ambitions keep your mind occupied in a positive and productive way? These are the things that are important to you. These are the things you are willing to put the time and effort into protecting and nurturing. As Alex Cavoulacos describes in her article it is important that we ask ourselves the questions she highlighted as they can aid us in gaining insight into how we are using our time.

Take some time to reflect on the decisions you make today and the tasks you decide to tackle. Are these tasks and responsibilities benefiting your ultimate growth and evolution or are they satisfying someone else’s agenda? How much more time are you willing to waste on things that aren’t necessarily important to you.

The more you permit yourself to engage in the things that matter to you most, the more you will recognize that your time is not being monopolized, but optimized. When we engage in things that matter to us we spend more time enjoying our lives and less time wondering what if our situation was different. Do yourself a favor and save time by doing more of what you love and less of what you don’t.

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Im Single And I Know It

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Contrary to popular belief, being single is not a medical condition! 

As I approach my 30’s, I have come to notice that being single is often looked down upon. Now I don’t want readers to think I feel this way personally, but I have been a witness to the odd reactions my friends get when they admit that they are neither married nor dating. Let’s examine some common reactions.

A Friends response: ”You won’t be this cute forever.”, “You’re too picky.” 

An older sibling’s response: “Isn’t the club and bar scene getting old?”

Mom’s response: ”When are you going to settle down and give me a grandchild?”

The dating/married crowd’s response: “You wouldn’t understand you have never been in a long committed relationship.”

Is being single really that bad?

Based on some of the comments listed above, it seems like single people are running against an imaginary clock. They need to act fast before the wrinkles and cellulite start to settle in, they need to act their age and give up the social scene; they need to hurry up and give their parents grand kids, and my favorite they need to grow up already because they can’t “hang” with people in relationships. The pressure to settle down with one person is definitely more prevalent when you reach your late 20’s and 30’s.  It makes me wonder are their people dating just because they think they have to. It’s not easy fighting against all that pressure to be someone’s plus one. Are we supposed to settle for someone that’s “good enough in order to avoid being “singled out”?

Being single shouldn’t feel like some disease that results in the person being looked down upon and judged. “Singledom” should be thought of as a time for self exploration and utter bliss. You come as you please, date who you want and determine what and whom you really want in your life. We have all been single at some point or another so why make it hard for those around us that just haven’t found a partner. If you ask me, people in relationships need to admit that single people make them uncomfortable. Deep down inside some people in relationships yearn for the freedom to be single again so they project their frustrations, and even misery, onto innocent single people. Perhaps this practice has served as a safety blanket of sorts. “If I make others feel bad for being alone I will feel better about being unhappy.” Just something to think about guys.

Being alone can be a scary thought for some, but should these fears be projected onto people who are obviously just fine with the idea. Let people live!

If you’re single and happy that’s all that matters. -Ambition In The City-