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My Heart is Set on Abundance

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“Be careful what you set your heart upon- for it will surely be yours.” James Baldwin

Living the law of attraction is no easy task. It takes practice and a positive mindset. The universe will provide you with whatever you desire. Are you welcoming abundance into your life or are you obsessing over the things you lack? Making a conscious shift in your thought pattern can aid you in attracting the life you truly want to live. Be fully present and listen to the requests you are sending out into the universe.

We Can’t Fix Everything

“Lots of things can be fixed. Things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You’re aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can’t be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn’t be.”
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Sometimes we have to break ties with the people we thought we would have around us forever. This separation is necessary and comes when you and that other person are fully prepared. With separation comes feelings of love and loss, anger and resentment. These feelings are normal and should be welcomed. There is learning behind every severed relationship.

7 Day Happiness Challenge Day 3

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September 10th, 2014 Day 3 of the Happiness Challenge

1. Having a strong support system makes me happy. I am blessed to have a small but very special group of people in my life that I can always looks to for support. They are my shoulders to cry on, my sounding boards to vent to, and my most appreciated teachers. I love them dearly and I could not imagine my life without them. While they don’t always tell me what I want to hear, they tell me what I need to hear and this is invaluable.  I am grateful for their honesty, their empathy, their patience, and above all their unconditional love. Everyone could benefit from having someone in their corner and I’m lucky I have you all. 

“Encourage, lift and strengthen one another. For the positive energy spread to one will be felt by us all. For we are connected, one and all.” Deborah Day

2. Solitude makes me happy. Every so often one just needs a little time to themselves. Some time to regroup, to sit in silence and to reflect on life. I welcome moments like these as they can serve as times of healing. All too often we allow ourselves to be consumed by trivial things that do not serve us. We forget that we too need attention and care. I gift my self with moments of solitude as often as I can. It is good for my soul and it brings forth moments if clarity and renewed energy. 

“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.” Michel de Montaigne

3. Painting makes me happy. Since the start of my pregnancy a lot of my painting has been put on hold. While I have not been able to work on larger scale pieces like I used to, I have been able to work on a few small watercolor images that I hope to one day give to my baby. It brings me to so much joy to paint. I get lost in my projects and time just seems to fly by. While I love seeing the final product I find that The in between time is the most fun. I strategize and play, I make mistakes and realize new options and overall  I just enjoy being in the moment. Art is absolutely magical. It warms my heart to know that the pieces I have created for my son will be hanging in his nursery soon. Mommy made them especially for him and I hope he likes them. Soon enough we’ll be painting together. 

“Painting is the silence of thought and the music of sight.” Orhan Pamuk

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Ponder This

What will you notice today?

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 Take some time to notice the beautiful world around you today. Let go of the past. Let go of the future. Still you mind in the present and bask in the glory of all that is in this moment. You are here. The practice of mindfulness is one we could all benefit from. Why not start today. Happy Friday everyone.

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Competition is a …

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As I attended a 6:30 am Bikram yoga class this morning I observed an interesting set of behaviors playing out between my fellow yoga mates. For the purposes of setting the scene, I would like to just mention 6:30 am is not my usual yoga time. I prefer to attend classes at 8:30 am or 9:30 am in order to be in a smaller class setting.  The smaller classes tend to have around 6-9 people in attendance. I like to think these smaller classes provide the attendees with individual attention for learning and growth, hence my reason for liking them. Might I also mention the added bonus, this particular type of yoga is practiced in a room that usually reaches temperatures of or around 105 degrees.  Not an ideal setting for a packed class if you ask me but let’s get back to my story.

As I attended this mornings packed session I came to the realization that the smaller class attendees are less inclined to compete. Not so sure if this is a good or bad thing but I would love for my readers to share their insights.

So here’s what I observed. This  mornings class had around 20 attendees. It was packed with students stretched from wall to wall. As the class was getting ready to begin, a yoga mate made a comment about how the packed classes tend to motivate him more. He said that the added pressure to keep a pose in front of all the other students kept him focused. He then added that he would never want to be the first student to fall out of a position let alone sit out for one of the poses. I looked to see the reaction of other students and i was pretty shocked to see several people nodding in agreement. This interaction really made me think.balancing stick

Now I haven’t been a yoga practitioner for very long but I can recall what drew me to the practice. Yoga is typically practiced to center ones mind. It is said that yoga promotes the stilling of the mind’s disturbances so you can experience life at its deepest and most profound levels.  It is practiced to relieve the stress and tension of ones daily routine in order to  promote a more peaceful state conducive to confidence, grace and calm efficiency in pressured situations.  These are the things that drew me to practicing yoga. I desired a sense of peace and stillness. I yearned for some form of exercise that would not only promote physical health but would impact my mind in a positive way as well. I wanted to reward myself with 90 minutes a day to clear my mind of its daily stresses and devote sometime to just be. No random worries or concerns of the day or week would be allowed to invade my mind during this “alone” time. I would have 90 minutes to break from the worries of my world in exchange for a very gratifying sense of release.

So how does competition come into play? The male student that commented in my class this morning really caused me to question why social settings constantly have a tendency of being just another venue to compete. Must it always be about looking better or being the best? I personally joined yoga for the reasons I mentioned above. If  I were to devote my 90 minutes to looking around the room to see which one of my fellow yoga mates was about to drop first I would be doing myself a huge disservice. I would lose sight of my own progress in the class and in addition I might start to place added pressure on myself to think I’m not doing as well as I should be in comparison to some of the other students.

Now I know a little competition can serve as a motivator for some, but isn’t there a healthier alternative? Being in the moment and building on your own strengths and abilities might prove more beneficial. If you can focus all of your energy on your own actions and allow yourself to be the sole judge of your progress you will begin to see how less critical you are of yourself. Put less of an emphasis on what others might be thinking of you and more emphasis on what you are doing in the moment.  What ever happened to the art of learning? Perhaps learning has become more about learning to have a competitive edge rather than learning for personal growth, development or more simply just for fun. Be confident in your actions and own them. Your strengths, abilities and talents are unique to you and therefore should be embraced. Namaste. Now let’s do yoga in peace! Ambition In The City

“Real learning comes about when the competitive spirit has ceased.” 
-Jiddu Krishnamurti

A Little Self Reflection

If anyone could describe you in one word what word would you NOT want them to say?

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Now take some time to think about the word you chose. What is it about this word that would affect you?

Losing sight of your own uniqueness: Never Satisfied, Never Happy

“It is in the character of very few men to honor without envy a friend who has prospered.”― Aeschylus

Envy is best defined as a resentful emotion that “occurs when a person lacks another’s superior quality, achievement or possession and wishes that the other lacked it.”

I had quite a reaction to this definition when I first read it out loud. As I read the words I wondered if I ever really  felt this strongly towards another human being. As I admitted that the answer to this question was YES, I began to ask myself,  where do these feelings come from and how can one  learn to use envy as a motivator rather than a distractor?

Envy often leers its ugly head when we perceive that we are lacking something in our lives that someone else has.  As human beings I think it is easy for individuals to feel envious of other people at one point or another. When we get this sense we tend to look at our own lives with dissatisfaction and thus project our feelings of unhappiness and resentment on the person we would like to compare to. As we focus our energy to think negative thoughts about the other person we lose sight of our own unique abilities, characteristics and accomplishments. By feeding into envy we allow ourselves to be pulled further away from our own potential for success.

So how do we reverse the negative effects of envy to motivate us to be better? Here are some helpful tips to combat the harmful side effects of envy.

  • Recognize and embrace your own individuality 
  • Learn to adopt the mindset that the success of others DOES NOT negate your own.
  • Look to those you admire for inspiration. Appreciate and Emulate.
  • Acknowledge the origin of your envy and use it to motivate you. Instead of letting envy distract you, let your drive to be better motivate you. 
  • Break the habit of making comparisons. Why waste your time comparing yourself to others? There is no better person to do the job of being you than you. 
  • Stay focused. Only you can ensure your own happiness. 
  • Enhance your skill set. Learning doesn’t stop the minute you graduate school. Learn from those around you and seek guidance from the people you want to emulate.
  • Determine a plan of action. How can I be better? Organizing ones plan of action is the first step to achieving the things you want. Be realistic and strategic 
  • Acknowledge  your limitations and learn to adapt. Determine where your strengths and weaknesses lie and make them work for you.
  • Give credit where credit is due. Those who succeed have put in the work. 
  • Give it your best and you will never feel disappointed. 

You are a unique individual with unique abilities and characteristics. There is no other person that is exactly the same as you. When you learn to be content with yourself and with the uniqueness you contribute to this world then and only then will you be truly happy.

“You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.” Friedrich Nietzche

“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.” Friedrich Nietzche 

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Overcoming Obstacles

Do you find that you have hit a wall in life? Have external stressors impacted the course of your life in a negative way? Do you even know where to begin in order to get your life back on track?

Life challenges come in varying shapes and sizes. Whether you are faced with an unpleasant event, a mild stressor, or a challenging life experience, these events can all have a significant impact on your life. How does one learn to cope with the curve balls constantly being thrown their way?

Obstacles will continue to present themselves in your life, but you have the power to determine how you respond. With every obstacle comes a new opportunity for growth and development. It takes a great deal of courage to decide when enough is enough, but only you have the power to make that call. Will you succumb to the circumstances thrust upon you or will you learn to make each obstacle work in your favor?

If you can adopt the mindset that some of the experiences that happen to you are outside of your control then perhaps persevering through some of the challenging times won’t appear so out of reach . As human beings we have an amazing ability to adapt to our surroundings and the events we experience. While some individuals tend to adapt to certain situations better than others, it really all depends on the individual and their own limiting thoughts.

Whatever the life event, human beings have the ability to overcome the obstacles placed in their paths. This is not to say that overcoming obstacles is easy, quick, or requires little effort on the part of the individual. Is it possible?Yes!

-Ambition In The City

“There are two big forces at work, external and internal. We have very little control over external forces such as tornadoes, earthquakes, floods, disasters, illness and pain. What really matters is internal force. How do I respond to those disasters? Over that I have complete control.” Leo Buscaglia

“Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” Napoleon Hill 

This is Your Life

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The next time you feel like there isn’t enough time in the day to do what you really want to do, take some time to look over this list and remind yourself that YOU are the most important person in your life. Make the effort to be happy and never look back. -Ambition In The City