“Be careful what you set your heart upon- for it will surely be yours.” James Baldwin
Living the law of attraction is no easy task. It takes practice and a positive mindset. The universe will provide you with whatever you desire. Are you welcoming abundance into your life or are you obsessing over the things you lack? Making a conscious shift in your thought pattern can aid you in attracting the life you truly want to live. Be fully present and listen to the requests you are sending out into the universe.
“Lots of things can be fixed. Things can be fixed. But many times, relationships between people cannot be fixed, because they should not be fixed. You’re aboard a ship setting sail, and the other person has joined the inland circus, or is boarding a different ship, and you just can’t be with each other anymore. Because you shouldn’t be.”
C. JoyBell C.
Sometimes we have to break ties with the people we thought we would have around us forever. This separation is necessary and comes when you and that other person are fully prepared. With separation comes feelings of love and loss, anger and resentment. These feelings are normal and should be welcomed. There is learning behind every severed relationship.
September 10th, 2014 Day 3 of the Happiness Challenge
1. Having a strong support system makes me happy. I am blessed to have a small but very special group of people in my life that I can always looks to for support. They are my shoulders to cry on, my sounding boards to vent to, and my most appreciated teachers. I love them dearly and I could not imagine my life without them. While they don’t always tell me what I want to hear, they tell me what I need to hear and this is invaluable. I am grateful for their honesty, their empathy, their patience, and above all their unconditional love. Everyone could benefit from having someone in their corner and I’m lucky I have you all.
“Encourage, lift and strengthen one another. For the positive energy spread to one will be felt by us all. For we are connected, one and all.” Deborah Day
2. Solitude makes me happy. Every so often one just needs a little time to themselves. Some time to regroup, to sit in silence and to reflect on life. I welcome moments like these as they can serve as times of healing. All too often we allow ourselves to be consumed by trivial things that do not serve us. We forget that we too need attention and care. I gift my self with moments of solitude as often as I can. It is good for my soul and it brings forth moments if clarity and renewed energy.
“The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.” Michel de Montaigne
3. Painting makes me happy. Since the start of my pregnancy a lot of my painting has been put on hold. While I have not been able to work on larger scale pieces like I used to, I have been able to work on a few small watercolor images that I hope to one day give to my baby. It brings me to so much joy to paint. I get lost in my projects and time just seems to fly by. While I love seeing the final product I find that The in between time is the most fun. I strategize and play, I make mistakes and realize new options and overall I just enjoy being in the moment. Art is absolutely magical. It warms my heart to know that the pieces I have created for my son will be hanging in his nursery soon. Mommy made them especially for him and I hope he likes them. Soon enough we’ll be painting together.
“Painting is the silence of thought and the music of sight.” Orhan Pamuk
Take some time to notice the beautiful world around you today. Let go of the past. Let go of the future. Still you mind in the present and bask in the glory of all that is in this moment. You are here. The practice of mindfulness is one we could all benefit from. Why not start today. Happy Friday everyone.
As I attended a 6:30 am Bikram yoga class this morning I observed an interesting set of behaviors playing out between my fellow yoga mates. For the purposes of setting the scene, I would like to just mention 6:30 am is not my usual yoga time. I prefer to attend classes at 8:30 am or 9:30 am in order to be in a smaller class setting. The smaller classes tend to have around 6-9 people in attendance. I like to think these smaller classes provide the attendees with individual attention for learning and growth, hence my reason for liking them. Might I also mention the added bonus, this particular type of yoga is practiced in a room that usually reaches temperatures of or around 105 degrees. Not an ideal setting for a packed class if you ask me but let’s get back to my story.
As I attended this mornings packed session I came to the realization that the smaller class attendees are less inclined to compete. Not so sure if this is a good or bad thing but I would love for my readers to share their insights.
So here’s what I observed. This mornings class had around 20 attendees. It was packed with students stretched from wall to wall. As the class was getting ready to begin, a yoga mate made a comment about how the packed classes tend to motivate him more. He said that the added pressure to keep a pose in front of all the other students kept him focused. He then added that he would never want to be the first student to fall out of a position let alone sit out for one of the poses. I looked to see the reaction of other students and i was pretty shocked to see several people nodding in agreement. This interaction really made me think.
Now I haven’t been a yoga practitioner for very long but I can recall what drew me to the practice. Yoga is typically practiced to center ones mind. It is said that yoga promotes the stilling of the mind’s disturbances so you can experience life at its deepest and most profound levels. It is practiced to relieve the stress and tension of ones daily routine in order to promote a more peaceful state conducive to confidence, grace and calm efficiency in pressured situations. These are the things that drew me to practicing yoga. I desired a sense of peace and stillness. I yearned for some form of exercise that would not only promote physical health but would impact my mind in a positive way as well. I wanted to reward myself with 90 minutes a day to clear my mind of its daily stresses and devote sometime to just be. No random worries or concerns of the day or week would be allowed to invade my mind during this “alone” time. I would have 90 minutes to break from the worries of my world in exchange for a very gratifying sense of release.
So how does competition come into play? The male student that commented in my class this morning really caused me to question why social settings constantly have a tendency of being just another venue to compete. Must it always be about looking better or being the best? I personally joined yoga for the reasons I mentioned above. If I were to devote my 90 minutes to looking around the room to see which one of my fellow yoga mates was about to drop first I would be doing myself a huge disservice. I would lose sight of my own progress in the class and in addition I might start to place added pressure on myself to think I’m not doing as well as I should be in comparison to some of the other students.
Now I know a little competition can serve as a motivator for some, but isn’t there a healthier alternative? Being in the moment and building on your own strengths and abilities might prove more beneficial. If you can focus all of your energy on your own actions and allow yourself to be the sole judge of your progress you will begin to see how less critical you are of yourself. Put less of an emphasis on what others might be thinking of you and more emphasis on what you are doing in the moment. What ever happened to the art of learning? Perhaps learning has become more about learning to have a competitive edge rather than learning for personal growth, development or more simply just for fun. Be confident in your actions and own them. Your strengths, abilities and talents are unique to you and therefore should be embraced. Namaste. Now let’s do yoga in peace! –Ambition In The City
“Real learning comes about when the competitive spirit has ceased.”
Don't ever change yourself to impress someone, cause they should be impressed that you don't change to please others -- When you are going through something hard and wonder where God is, always remember that the teacher is always quiet during a test --- Unknown