“Where there is love there is life.” Mahatma Gandhi
According to the Merriam Webster Dictionary love is…
1. Warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion
2. The object of attachment, devotion, or admiration
3. The unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another
4. Is inspired by affection
Love can be expressed in many forms. Whether it is demonstrated through romantic love, familial love, friendship love or simply loving all that is around you, living a life motivated by love can sometimes prove quite challenging. As we move through life we often allow ourselves to become consumed by the realities of our life experiences. Whether we have suffered a loss, experienced a betrayal, or have permitted ourselves to lose faith in love, we learn to let our experiences not only define love for us, but also determine how we will either accept or reject love in our lives.
While a great many people will strive tirelessly for a taste of love in their lifetime, a vast majority of people will seek other things in life to replace love. Be it money, possessions, power or knowledge there are a great many of us whose motivation lie in things other than love. While these desires can all be seen as fair desires to strive for in life they are hollow and temporary fillers for what we know to be necessary in our lives and that’s love.
How can we learn to approach love as something we can both give and receive throughout our lifetime no matter our life experiences? Can we learn to accept love as a choice we each have and deserve to experience? While many of us will attempt to fill the void created when we don’t have love in our lives by seeking other means of happiness and fulfillment, these methods will only serve us temporarily. Love is infinite and everlasting. It will exist when all else fails to fill our heart, mind and spirit. We were all created in love and therefore built to cultivate love both within ourselves as well as within others. Are you ready to live love now?
Let’s practice together.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddha
It was not until I started to listen to my wants and needs that I discovered I hadn’t been loving myself enough. It was when I realized that I was finally acknowledging my truth that I felt comfortable enough to love the person I was becoming. I accepted my desires as worthy of my attention and began to look for ways to receive what my inner voice was trying to tell me. By allowing these truths to emerge I slowly began to understand what it truly means to love oneself.
Loving oneself means accepting and acknowledging that which is true within your body, mind, and spirit. You love yourself when you finally recognize that you are worth love and affection. That you have unique gifts and talents that you long to share rather than shelter from the world. Through self-reflection and meditation one can learn to reconnect with their inner stirrings. Those desires and wishes that only you know are true and necessary for your life to have meaning and purpose. By creating a space for your creativity and curiosity to shine with love and enthusiasm your desires and ambitions take on a new form. They are no longer associated with feelings of doubt or fear but embraced with love and possibility. Loving oneself means giving love freely to all that is true to you. In order to extend love towards others one must first find love within themselves. Allow for your love to inspire you, support you, and guide you in all your life experiences. “Something inside you emerges….an innate, indwelling peace, stillness, aliveness. It is the unconditioned, who you are in your essence. It is what you had been looking for in the love object. It is yourself.” Eckhart Tolle
Break Down Your Barriers to Love
“Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Rumi
We live in a world of realities where every action we take influences the realities we experience in life. While a great many of our life decisions are based on a reaction to what we are experiencing in the moment, other decisions can be attributed to past encounters that have impacted us negatively. When it comes to welcoming love into your life one must first admit the barriers to love that exist within themselves. Do you find that you shut people out, push people away, or feel as though you have lost the ability to connect with others through love? If so, it’s about time you reconnect with what’s missing in your life. While it may prove challenging for many to reflect back on a negative experience they encountered with love, this is the first critical step to letting love back into your life now. We all yearn to be loved but this is only made possible when we let go of the negative and make room for the positives to flourish. Replace your feelings of fear with feelings of excitement and wonder. The potential for love lies in all of us. So look back, let go, and open up to the possibilities. “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” John Lennon
Demonstrate Love in Your Actions
“Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.” Mother Teresa
Motivating yourself to act out of love can have its challenges. It can be especially difficult when your actions aren’t received with the same type of positive intention you wish to transmit. How does one act out of love when they fear that their intentions will not be reciprocated? It’s easy, do it anyway. When we shelter ourselves from taking loving action we hinder ourselves from ever knowing or feeling the wisdom that comes with love. A rule of thumb to overcome this fear, act the way you want to feel. If your focus is to have your love paid back, you are missing the point of living a life of love. Shift your focus to what you know to be true and genuine in your heart. Love for loves sake and nothing else. “One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving.” Paulo Coelho Practice living love in everything you do, and watch as you begin to see the world and those around you differently. When we love and are loving we grow in our wisdom. Live in love and it will live within you. Acting out of love in your daily life attracts experiences that assist you to grow into your own truth. By sharing your wisdom and truth with others you also share your love and affection for them. Living life fully by loving fully not only enhances your inner strength but also enhances your ability to impact positive change. When we are loved there is no telling what wonderful things we are capable of. Move towards love. “A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world.Everyone you meet is your mirror.” Ken Keyes
Open Your Heart to Others
“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection. Brené Brown
As Brené Brown’s quotes emphasizes, one can only grow in love when they open their hearts to others. When you allow others to see you at your most vulnerable you permit them to see your true essence. You create a safe space free of judgment and fear and allow for understanding and acceptance to emerge. Honor the person you are by honoring the feelings and emotions you have sheltered from the world. We have all faced our own personal challenges with love. By sharing our personal experiences with those we trust and respect we invite compassion and clarity to come forward. We have all felt similar emotions and we have all had to learn how to heal. This process can be difficult when you go it alone. Let your guard down and let others in. Love is plentiful. It is infinite and within us all. Open your heart to others and cultivate a community built on connectedness, love and mutual understanding. “Love is not love until love’s vulnerable.” Theodore Roethke
“The love you seek is seeking you at this moment.” Deepak Chopra
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