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My Heart is Set on Abundance

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“Be careful what you set your heart upon- for it will surely be yours.” James Baldwin

Living the law of attraction is no easy task. It takes practice and a positive mindset. The universe will provide you with whatever you desire. Are you welcoming abundance into your life or are you obsessing over the things you lack? Making a conscious shift in your thought pattern can aid you in attracting the life you truly want to live. Be fully present and listen to the requests you are sending out into the universe.

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If you’re not doing what you love, you’re wasting your time.

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Recently I read a wonderful article written by the founder of Muse. In this article the author asks its readers to ponder the concept of saving ones time by doing less. I am all about using my time wisely so I was immediately drawn to this article and the helpful tips it provided.

In reading Saving time by doing LESS, I believe the most impactful statement made by Alex Cavoulacos was that people need to begin acknowledging “what not to do, and what to stop doing in order to lead happier and more productive lives.” I happen to agree 100%.

As a life coach I think it’s important that people take a regular inventory of their daily tasks and responsibilities to decipher between the things they feel are really important vs. the things that are secondary to their happiness and ultimate productivity. We are constantly allowing ourselves to be pulled in a hundred different directions. What this habit often results in, is us being dissatisfied with where our choices have taken us and to regret those things we have yet to accomplish. Putting ourselves second by taking on what could ultimately be delegated to someone else or just removed entirely from our priority list only results in us drifting further and further from our highest potential. What should you be doing with your valuable time?

If you find yourself putting things off over and over again this is not an indication that you are a procrastinator, this could merely be a sign that this task is just not as important as you originally thought. Stick to doing what makes you feel alive and gives you purpose. These are the things that will make you get out of bed an hour early just to get a head start. It is these things that keep you up at night so you can add just one final touch to make it perfect. “If you are not doing what you love you’re wasting your time.” Billy Joel   photo-copy

What tasks and various ambitions keep your mind occupied in a positive and productive way? These are the things that are important to you. These are the things you are willing to put the time and effort into protecting and nurturing. As Alex Cavoulacos describes in her article it is important that we ask ourselves the questions she highlighted as they can aid us in gaining insight into how we are using our time.

Take some time to reflect on the decisions you make today and the tasks you decide to tackle. Are these tasks and responsibilities benefiting your ultimate growth and evolution or are they satisfying someone else’s agenda? How much more time are you willing to waste on things that aren’t necessarily important to you.

The more you permit yourself to engage in the things that matter to you most, the more you will recognize that your time is not being monopolized, but optimized. When we engage in things that matter to us we spend more time enjoying our lives and less time wondering what if our situation was different. Do yourself a favor and save time by doing more of what you love and less of what you don’t.

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Love Fully

“Where there is love there is life.” Mahatma Gandhi

According to the Merriam Webster Dictionary love is…

images1. Warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion

2. The object of attachment, devotion, or admiration

3. The unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another

4. Is inspired by affection

Love can be expressed in many forms. Whether it is demonstrated through romantic love, familial love, friendship love or simply loving all that is around you, living a life motivated by love can sometimes prove quite challenging. As we move through life we often allow ourselves to become consumed by the realities of our life experiences. Whether we have suffered a loss, experienced a betrayal, or have permitted ourselves to lose faith in love, we learn to let our experiences not only define love for us, but also determine how we will either accept or reject love in our lives.

While a great many people will strive tirelessly for a taste of love in their lifetime, a vast majority of people will seek other things in life to replace love. Be it money, possessions, power or knowledge there are a great many of us whose motivation lie in things other than love. While these desires can all be seen as fair desires to strive for in life they are hollow and temporary fillers for what we know to be necessary in our lives and that’s love.

How can we learn to approach love as something we can both give and receive throughout our lifetime no matter our life experiences? Can we learn to accept love as a choice we each have and deserve to experience? While many of us will attempt to fill the void created when we don’t have love in our lives by seeking other means of happiness and fulfillment, these methods will only serve us temporarily. Love is infinite and everlasting. It will exist when all else fails to fill our heart, mind and spirit. We were all created in love and therefore built to cultivate love both within ourselves as well as within others. Are you ready to live love now?

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Love Yourself

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddhaimages-1

It was not until I started to listen to my wants and needs that I  discovered I hadn’t been loving myself enough. It was when I realized that I was finally acknowledging my truth that I felt comfortable enough to love the person I was becoming.  I accepted my desires as worthy of my attention and began to look for ways to receive what my inner voice was trying to tell me. By allowing these truths to emerge I slowly began to understand what it truly means to love oneself.

Loving oneself means accepting and acknowledging that which is true within your body, mind, and spirit. You love yourself when you finally recognize that you are worth love and affection. That you have unique gifts and talents that you long to share rather than shelter from the world.  Through self-reflection and meditation one can learn to reconnect with their inner stirrings. Those desires and wishes that only you know are true and necessary for your life to have meaning and purpose. By creating a space for your creativity and curiosity to shine with love and enthusiasm your desires and ambitions take on a new form. They are no longer associated with feelings of doubt or fear but embraced with love and possibility. Loving oneself means giving love freely to all that is true to you. In order to extend love towards others one must first find love within themselves. Allow for your love to inspire you, support you, and guide you in all your life experiences.  “Something inside you emerges….an innate, indwelling peace, stillness, aliveness. It is the unconditioned, who you are in your essence. It is what you had been looking for in the love object. It is yourself.” Eckhart Tolle

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“Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Rumi

We live in a world of realities where every action we take influences the realities we experience in life. While a great many of our life decisions are based on a reaction to what we are experiencing in the moment, other decisions can be attributed to past encounters that have impacted us negatively. When it comes to welcoming love into your life one must first admit the barriers to love that exist within themselves. Do you find that you shut people out, push people away, or feel as though you have lost the ability to connect with others through love? If so, it’s about time you reconnect with what’s missing in your life. While it may prove challenging for many to reflect back on a negative experience they encountered with love, this is the first critical  step to letting love back into your life now. We all yearn to be loved but this is only made possible when we let go of the negative and make room for the positives to flourish. Replace your feelings of fear with feelings of excitement and wonder. The potential for love lies in all of us. So look back, let go, and open up to the possibilities. “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” John Lennon

Demonstrate Love in Your Actions

splendid-heart-shaped-pink-cloud-wallpaper1280x80061876“Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.” Mother Teresa

Motivating yourself to act out of love can have its challenges. It can be especially difficult when your actions aren’t received with the same type of positive intention you wish to transmit. How does one act out of love when they fear that their intentions will not be reciprocated? It’s easy, do it anyway. When we shelter ourselves from taking loving action we hinder ourselves from ever knowing or feeling the wisdom that comes with love. A rule of thumb to overcome this fear, act the way you want to feel. If your focus is to have your love paid back, you are missing the point of living a life of love. Shift your focus to what you know to be true and genuine in your heart. Love for loves sake and nothing else. “One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving.” Paulo Coelho Practice living love in everything you do, and watch as you begin to see the world and those around you differently. When we love and are loving we grow in our wisdom. Live in love and it will live within you. Acting out of love in your daily life attracts experiences that assist you to grow into your own truth.  By sharing your wisdom and truth with others you also share your love and affection for them. Living life fully by loving fully not only enhances your inner strength but also enhances your ability to impact positive change. When we are loved there is no telling what wonderful things we are capable of. Move towards love. “A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world.Everyone you meet is your mirror.” Ken Keyes

Open Your Heart to Others Open-Heart

“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection. Brené Brown 

As Brené Brown’s quotes emphasizes, one can only grow in love when they open their hearts to others. When you allow others to see you at your most vulnerable you permit them to see your true essence. You create a safe space free of judgment and fear and allow for understanding and acceptance to emerge. Honor the person you are by honoring the feelings and emotions you have sheltered from the world. We have all faced our own personal challenges with love. By sharing our personal experiences with those we trust and respect we invite compassion and clarity to come forward. We have all felt similar emotions and we have all had to learn how to heal. This process can be difficult when you go it alone. Let your guard down and let others in. Love is plentiful. It is infinite and within us all. Open your heart to others and cultivate a community built on connectedness, love and mutual understanding. “Love is not love until love’s vulnerable.” Theodore Roethke

“The love you seek is seeking you at this moment.” Deepak Chopra

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Turn Worry Into Action

“Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose.” Eckhart Tolle 

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1. To give way to anxiety or unease; allow one’s mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles.

2. A state of anxiety and uncertainty over actual or potential problems.

When was the last time you allowed your worries to push you further and further away from your truth? When it comes to the topic of worry, I think we can all say we are guilty of giving into our own anxieties and uncertainty at one point or another. We dwell on issues and allow our minds to be inundated with limiting thoughts. Often times our worries can even take over our everyday functioning. Worries can cripple our ability to get on with our usual day. We find that we are distracted and highly unmotivated all because we can’t seem to let our worries go.

It is when we allow our worries to paralyze our ability to function that we permit our worries to have access to our power. The power that would usually drive us to take risks and have confidence in ourselves is silenced the moment we entertain our worries. While each of us innately has the power to push away our worries, effort must be given to change our perceptions from negative to positive. It is only when we learn to silence our worries and shift our thinking to motivate us into action, that we truly embrace our power and attract those positive outcomes we so greatly desire.

Turning Worry into Action

1. Be Inspired

Inspiration is everywhere. When you open your heart, mind, and body to what the world has to share with you, it is then that you allow yourself to truly be inspired by its wonders. Allow for your curiosity and creativity to emerge. Ask questions of those people and things around you and watch as moments of clarity and inspiration present themselves to you. “What if everything would just work out for the best?” “What can I do about this now?” Allow for the questions to flow naturally and watch as you’re inspired to see what is true and within your control.

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Life will continue to move on even if you allow your mind to be clouded by your own limiting thoughts. Don’t allow yourself to be left behind. Adopt the mindset of wanting to move forward. Ask questions of yourself to determine the purpose of your worry. You will come to realize that worrying serves absolutely no purpose other than to pull you away from taking action. Seek a better understanding of the situation that is affecting you, and allow your questions to motivate you into taking steps towards action. Self reflection and curiosity will allow for greater self-awareness and a true connection to your inner power. Tap into your power and keep moving forward. “Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorry. It empties today of its strength.” Corrie Ten Boom

3. Envision the Positive

What if you took the stand that you were going to get past this difficult moment in your life? Try envisioning the desired outcome as it if has already happened. Spend 5-10 minutes in silence and ask your mind to take you to a place of calm and relaxation. Call upon your creative power and envision your desired worry being resolved through action. Whenever I worry I won’t have enough time to get the things I need done, I envision myself completing all the tasks I give purpose and value to being completed efficiently and without stress. One cannot function effectively if they put unnecessary pressure on themselves to get everything done.  By doing so, you not only set yourself up for failure, but you also sacrifice some tasks that you really could have given 100% to.  More often than not, I find that doing this exercise helps to set the tone for my day. I am less concerned about getting everything done and more concerned about doing the things I give value to well. When you allow yourself to see the bigger picture you make room for your desired outcomes to be experienced.  “I never worry about action, but only inaction.” Winston Churchill 

4. Acknowledge Your Worries in Writing

When seeking clarity, it’s always helpful to get things in writing. Create a running worry list. As worries surface write them down and take some time to examine each ones true value in your life. Sometimes seeing a worry in writing helps the person to see how silly and unnecessary the worry truly is. What you are also able to uncover through logging your worries is that a fair majority of them are absolutely out of your control. Rather than waste your time ruminating on something that is out of your control, acknowledge your worry in writing and then let it go. Look to your worry log to determine patterns that may exist. Don’t allow your worries to become a broken record.  If you have experienced the same worry before you must have survived it. What’s the sense of getting all worked up again? It will all work out for the best.

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Nothing feels better than when you attack a worry head on and face uncertainty. The moment immediately after you do so you feel liberated and powerful. When these types of moments present themselves allow your worry to build momentum inside you, not as a deterrent from action but as a motivator to be present in the moment and deal with matter as it presents its self.  An example that comes to mind in me is times where I am called upon suddenly to speak in a large group. While the initial fear and anxiety experienced has the power to immobilize me, I use it as fuel to be present and allow for my inner strength and confidence to emerge. It’s a wonderful feeling when you stand against your inner limiting thoughts of how others might receive you, or how foolish you might sound in the moment, and allow for the stirring of your own power and creativity to shine through. Take advantage of moments like these and commit yourself to being fully present. It is these moments that help to build your character and shift your perspective when a new worry emerges. You’ve done it before you can do it again!

6. Refine Your Power

As you continue to grow and learn from one experience to the next, fortify your inner power with images and memories of past victories. What may have worried you once before is no longer of concern to you now. You persevered and overcame many obstacles and you came out on the other side better for it. Refine this power by pulling it out when you need it the most. This can often be done alone or with the help of someone supportive. Ask yourself empowering questions that will help you to remember past success. Have a supportive friend or loved one champion your efforts by reminding you of past victories. Your journey in life has no fixed destination but holds great promise and rich rewards. There is no telling what is possible. “Do you remember the things you were worrying about a year ago? How did they work out? Didn’t you waste a lot of fruitless energy on account of most of them? Didn’t most of then turn out all right after all?” Dale Carnegie 

7. Learn To Say “NO” Just As Easily As You Say “YES”

Why is it so easy to say “Yes”? I think it just stems down to good old peer pressure. When we feel pressured to say yes it’s because we want others to like us. We take on more than we realistically can and sacrifice our mental stability in the process. We worry about having to do it all when no one has asked this of us in the first place.  We were the ones that accepted every request made of us and now we are alone to suffer the consequences. Learn to say “No” just as easily as you say “YES”. Save yourself from the unnecessary stress felt when you create problems for yourself by always saying “YES”. All that will result is you feeling overloaded and anxious that you ultimately end up letting someone down. Learn to be selective. This practice will not only help to keep your anxiety levels down, but it will help to showcase your natural strengths. When you can learn to say “No” people will begin to respect you for what they know you can bring to the table. You wouldn’t agree to volunteer to sing at a charity event when you know you can’t carry a tune for your life.  Why don’t you stick to collecting donations at the charity event? You are an excellent speaker and have been known to be quite the people person. If there’s anyone who can convince people to open their wallets for a good cause, it’s you!  When you are realistic with yourself people will not only respect you but they will learn to see you for your talents and dependability. Taking on tasks or responsibilities that you have time for and can do well is way more important than taking everything on and doing it poorly. Trust yourself and learn to say “No” when appropriate.

8. Striving to do Things Well 

Let’s face it sometimes we let our ego get the best of us. When you allow your worries to result in being overly critical of yourself, you diminish your true power and create a never ending cycle of insecurity and anxiety.  Remember the golden rule that anything worth doing is worth doing badly.  When you allow yourself time to do something you are passionate about badly you never know you might eventually become quite good at it.

tumblr_m4d8ehgpp11qajjdco1_500Don’t allow your desire to be perfect pull you to a place of comparison and competition. You will lose sight of your own uniqueness and will never be content. “Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order.” Anne Wilson Schaef  Strive to do things well and watch as your concern for perfection diminishes.

9. Don’t Allow Others to Push Your Panic Button 

It’s easy to feel pressure when you allow the opinions and expectations of others to get the best of you. Don’t allow others to push your panic button. When you concern yourself on how others perceive you, you push yourself further and further away from your truth. Seeking out the appreciation and admiration of others will only appease your ego temporarily.  When you don’t receive this type of attention from others you begin to doubt your strengths and talents. Slowly but surely panic and worry begins to settle in. While it may be difficult, one must find ways to muster the confidence necessary to strengthen their innate power. Worry less about the opinions of the world and more about the way you perceive yourself and in turn perceive the world. “I do not care so much what I am to others as I care what I am to myself.” Michel de Montaigne Our self-worth can not and should not be determined by others. When we can learn to detach ourselves from judgment then and only then can we believe in ourselves and the world around us. When it comes to this strategy I think the first step to diminishing this worry begins with you. When you can stop being judgmental of others you model how you want the world to respond to you. Be less critical of others and eventually others will follow suit. If we don’t want our panic button pushed then we surely shouldn’t be pushing others.

10. Be Consistent. Practice Makes Perfect

When it comes to making any shift in your life you need to be consistent in your efforts. Identify realistic strategies for yourself and stick to them. Accountability is huge! When you hold yourself accountable for the way in which you feel you will put more effort into creating your desired outcomes. If you want to worry less by placing less importance on how others perceive you then practice strategies that will build your inner power. “Accept who you are; and revel in it.” Mitch Albom Give yourself permission to try new things and fail forward. Stay in the present and continue to work towards doing things well instead of doing them perfectly.

“Let your advance worrying become advance thinking and planning.” Winston Churchill

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Losing sight of your own uniqueness: Never Satisfied, Never Happy

“It is in the character of very few men to honor without envy a friend who has prospered.”― Aeschylus

Envy is best defined as a resentful emotion that “occurs when a person lacks another’s superior quality, achievement or possession and wishes that the other lacked it.”

I had quite a reaction to this definition when I first read it out loud. As I read the words I wondered if I ever really  felt this strongly towards another human being. As I admitted that the answer to this question was YES, I began to ask myself,  where do these feelings come from and how can one  learn to use envy as a motivator rather than a distractor?

Envy often leers its ugly head when we perceive that we are lacking something in our lives that someone else has.  As human beings I think it is easy for individuals to feel envious of other people at one point or another. When we get this sense we tend to look at our own lives with dissatisfaction and thus project our feelings of unhappiness and resentment on the person we would like to compare to. As we focus our energy to think negative thoughts about the other person we lose sight of our own unique abilities, characteristics and accomplishments. By feeding into envy we allow ourselves to be pulled further away from our own potential for success.

So how do we reverse the negative effects of envy to motivate us to be better? Here are some helpful tips to combat the harmful side effects of envy.

  • Recognize and embrace your own individuality 
  • Learn to adopt the mindset that the success of others DOES NOT negate your own.
  • Look to those you admire for inspiration. Appreciate and Emulate.
  • Acknowledge the origin of your envy and use it to motivate you. Instead of letting envy distract you, let your drive to be better motivate you. 
  • Break the habit of making comparisons. Why waste your time comparing yourself to others? There is no better person to do the job of being you than you. 
  • Stay focused. Only you can ensure your own happiness. 
  • Enhance your skill set. Learning doesn’t stop the minute you graduate school. Learn from those around you and seek guidance from the people you want to emulate.
  • Determine a plan of action. How can I be better? Organizing ones plan of action is the first step to achieving the things you want. Be realistic and strategic 
  • Acknowledge  your limitations and learn to adapt. Determine where your strengths and weaknesses lie and make them work for you.
  • Give credit where credit is due. Those who succeed have put in the work. 
  • Give it your best and you will never feel disappointed. 

You are a unique individual with unique abilities and characteristics. There is no other person that is exactly the same as you. When you learn to be content with yourself and with the uniqueness you contribute to this world then and only then will you be truly happy.

“You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.” Friedrich Nietzche

“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.” Friedrich Nietzche 

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