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Love Fully

“Where there is love there is life.” Mahatma Gandhi

According to the Merriam Webster Dictionary love is…

images1. Warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion

2. The object of attachment, devotion, or admiration

3. The unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another

4. Is inspired by affection

Love can be expressed in many forms. Whether it is demonstrated through romantic love, familial love, friendship love or simply loving all that is around you, living a life motivated by love can sometimes prove quite challenging. As we move through life we often allow ourselves to become consumed by the realities of our life experiences. Whether we have suffered a loss, experienced a betrayal, or have permitted ourselves to lose faith in love, we learn to let our experiences not only define love for us, but also determine how we will either accept or reject love in our lives.

While a great many people will strive tirelessly for a taste of love in their lifetime, a vast majority of people will seek other things in life to replace love. Be it money, possessions, power or knowledge there are a great many of us whose motivation lie in things other than love. While these desires can all be seen as fair desires to strive for in life they are hollow and temporary fillers for what we know to be necessary in our lives and that’s love.

How can we learn to approach love as something we can both give and receive throughout our lifetime no matter our life experiences? Can we learn to accept love as a choice we each have and deserve to experience? While many of us will attempt to fill the void created when we don’t have love in our lives by seeking other means of happiness and fulfillment, these methods will only serve us temporarily. Love is infinite and everlasting. It will exist when all else fails to fill our heart, mind and spirit. We were all created in love and therefore built to cultivate love both within ourselves as well as within others. Are you ready to live love now?

Let’s practice together.

Love Yourself

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddhaimages-1

It was not until I started to listen to my wants and needs that I  discovered I hadn’t been loving myself enough. It was when I realized that I was finally acknowledging my truth that I felt comfortable enough to love the person I was becoming.  I accepted my desires as worthy of my attention and began to look for ways to receive what my inner voice was trying to tell me. By allowing these truths to emerge I slowly began to understand what it truly means to love oneself.

Loving oneself means accepting and acknowledging that which is true within your body, mind, and spirit. You love yourself when you finally recognize that you are worth love and affection. That you have unique gifts and talents that you long to share rather than shelter from the world.  Through self-reflection and meditation one can learn to reconnect with their inner stirrings. Those desires and wishes that only you know are true and necessary for your life to have meaning and purpose. By creating a space for your creativity and curiosity to shine with love and enthusiasm your desires and ambitions take on a new form. They are no longer associated with feelings of doubt or fear but embraced with love and possibility. Loving oneself means giving love freely to all that is true to you. In order to extend love towards others one must first find love within themselves. Allow for your love to inspire you, support you, and guide you in all your life experiences.  “Something inside you emerges….an innate, indwelling peace, stillness, aliveness. It is the unconditioned, who you are in your essence. It is what you had been looking for in the love object. It is yourself.” Eckhart Tolle

Break Down Your Barriers to Love  Unknown-1

“Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Rumi

We live in a world of realities where every action we take influences the realities we experience in life. While a great many of our life decisions are based on a reaction to what we are experiencing in the moment, other decisions can be attributed to past encounters that have impacted us negatively. When it comes to welcoming love into your life one must first admit the barriers to love that exist within themselves. Do you find that you shut people out, push people away, or feel as though you have lost the ability to connect with others through love? If so, it’s about time you reconnect with what’s missing in your life. While it may prove challenging for many to reflect back on a negative experience they encountered with love, this is the first critical  step to letting love back into your life now. We all yearn to be loved but this is only made possible when we let go of the negative and make room for the positives to flourish. Replace your feelings of fear with feelings of excitement and wonder. The potential for love lies in all of us. So look back, let go, and open up to the possibilities. “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” John Lennon

Demonstrate Love in Your Actions

splendid-heart-shaped-pink-cloud-wallpaper1280x80061876“Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.” Mother Teresa

Motivating yourself to act out of love can have its challenges. It can be especially difficult when your actions aren’t received with the same type of positive intention you wish to transmit. How does one act out of love when they fear that their intentions will not be reciprocated? It’s easy, do it anyway. When we shelter ourselves from taking loving action we hinder ourselves from ever knowing or feeling the wisdom that comes with love. A rule of thumb to overcome this fear, act the way you want to feel. If your focus is to have your love paid back, you are missing the point of living a life of love. Shift your focus to what you know to be true and genuine in your heart. Love for loves sake and nothing else. “One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving.” Paulo Coelho Practice living love in everything you do, and watch as you begin to see the world and those around you differently. When we love and are loving we grow in our wisdom. Live in love and it will live within you. Acting out of love in your daily life attracts experiences that assist you to grow into your own truth.  By sharing your wisdom and truth with others you also share your love and affection for them. Living life fully by loving fully not only enhances your inner strength but also enhances your ability to impact positive change. When we are loved there is no telling what wonderful things we are capable of. Move towards love. “A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world.Everyone you meet is your mirror.” Ken Keyes

Open Your Heart to Others Open-Heart

“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection. Brené Brown 

As Brené Brown’s quotes emphasizes, one can only grow in love when they open their hearts to others. When you allow others to see you at your most vulnerable you permit them to see your true essence. You create a safe space free of judgment and fear and allow for understanding and acceptance to emerge. Honor the person you are by honoring the feelings and emotions you have sheltered from the world. We have all faced our own personal challenges with love. By sharing our personal experiences with those we trust and respect we invite compassion and clarity to come forward. We have all felt similar emotions and we have all had to learn how to heal. This process can be difficult when you go it alone. Let your guard down and let others in. Love is plentiful. It is infinite and within us all. Open your heart to others and cultivate a community built on connectedness, love and mutual understanding. “Love is not love until love’s vulnerable.” Theodore Roethke

“The love you seek is seeking you at this moment.” Deepak Chopra

Ambition In The City

Overcoming Obstacles

Do you find that you have hit a wall in life? Have external stressors impacted the course of your life in a negative way? Do you even know where to begin in order to get your life back on track?

Life challenges come in varying shapes and sizes. Whether you are faced with an unpleasant event, a mild stressor, or a challenging life experience, these events can all have a significant impact on your life. How does one learn to cope with the curve balls constantly being thrown their way?

Obstacles will continue to present themselves in your life, but you have the power to determine how you respond. With every obstacle comes a new opportunity for growth and development. It takes a great deal of courage to decide when enough is enough, but only you have the power to make that call. Will you succumb to the circumstances thrust upon you or will you learn to make each obstacle work in your favor?

If you can adopt the mindset that some of the experiences that happen to you are outside of your control then perhaps persevering through some of the challenging times won’t appear so out of reach . As human beings we have an amazing ability to adapt to our surroundings and the events we experience. While some individuals tend to adapt to certain situations better than others, it really all depends on the individual and their own limiting thoughts.

Whatever the life event, human beings have the ability to overcome the obstacles placed in their paths. This is not to say that overcoming obstacles is easy, quick, or requires little effort on the part of the individual. Is it possible?Yes!

-Ambition In The City

“There are two big forces at work, external and internal. We have very little control over external forces such as tornadoes, earthquakes, floods, disasters, illness and pain. What really matters is internal force. How do I respond to those disasters? Over that I have complete control.” Leo Buscaglia

“Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” Napoleon Hill 

There’s Always Tomorrow

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It takes a great deal of courage to work towards your goals. Although you might hit a wall every once a while the most successful people understand that there will always be tomorrow. Continue to make efforts towards your own personal success and remember that no one else is responsible for your happiness. There is always a way to make things happen. -AMBITION IN THE CITY

Im Single And I Know It

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Contrary to popular belief, being single is not a medical condition! 

As I approach my 30’s, I have come to notice that being single is often looked down upon. Now I don’t want readers to think I feel this way personally, but I have been a witness to the odd reactions my friends get when they admit that they are neither married nor dating. Let’s examine some common reactions.

A Friends response: ”You won’t be this cute forever.”, “You’re too picky.” 

An older sibling’s response: “Isn’t the club and bar scene getting old?”

Mom’s response: ”When are you going to settle down and give me a grandchild?”

The dating/married crowd’s response: “You wouldn’t understand you have never been in a long committed relationship.”

Is being single really that bad?

Based on some of the comments listed above, it seems like single people are running against an imaginary clock. They need to act fast before the wrinkles and cellulite start to settle in, they need to act their age and give up the social scene; they need to hurry up and give their parents grand kids, and my favorite they need to grow up already because they can’t “hang” with people in relationships. The pressure to settle down with one person is definitely more prevalent when you reach your late 20’s and 30’s.  It makes me wonder are their people dating just because they think they have to. It’s not easy fighting against all that pressure to be someone’s plus one. Are we supposed to settle for someone that’s “good enough in order to avoid being “singled out”?

Being single shouldn’t feel like some disease that results in the person being looked down upon and judged. “Singledom” should be thought of as a time for self exploration and utter bliss. You come as you please, date who you want and determine what and whom you really want in your life. We have all been single at some point or another so why make it hard for those around us that just haven’t found a partner. If you ask me, people in relationships need to admit that single people make them uncomfortable. Deep down inside some people in relationships yearn for the freedom to be single again so they project their frustrations, and even misery, onto innocent single people. Perhaps this practice has served as a safety blanket of sorts. “If I make others feel bad for being alone I will feel better about being unhappy.” Just something to think about guys.

Being alone can be a scary thought for some, but should these fears be projected onto people who are obviously just fine with the idea. Let people live!

If you’re single and happy that’s all that matters. -Ambition In The City-

Be Awesome

 
Why CHOOSE a Life Coach?“I have decided to make a change in my life. I will no longer limit myself to the comfortable yet unfulfilled days I have grown so accustomed to. I can do better then this!” Now what?-Ambition In The City-

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Embrace Choice and Move Forward

I’m 28 years old and i decided to make a change in my life. After years of wanting to have my own business, I am finally taking the steps to make my dreams come true.

As a student of psychology for many years, I have always enjoyed engaging people. I like to think helping people to be better is why I was put on this earth. I have worked with the chronically ill, the mentally ill, the disadvantaged, and the physically drained. The one thing these people all have in common is “Choice”. Whether you are dealing with an illness or a barrier in life you always have a choice. The choice to overcome, to fight, or to change is always yours and yours alone. Your choices are only as limited as you make them to be.

Many people aspire to be a great many things in life, but only half of these people really make it happen. Why is that? Could it be due to fear, lack of resources, obligations, family. People come to me everyday with dozens of reasons why they “can’t” make a change in their lives. I am here to tell them “they can and they will”.

All to often when people share their “wants” and aspirations their positive thoughts are usually followed by various “limiting statements”. These statements come in the form of “i can’t because…”, “I don’t have enough time to..”,or  ”I don’t have enough money to..”. Think about the times you have shared a goal or desire with a family member or friend. How many times did these individuals listen intently to a dream you may have for yourself only to share their own limiting thoughts around how you might not be able to pull this off. Now I would like to think our friends and family members are only making these comments because they care about us. No one wants to see someone try and fail, but whose to say you’re going to fail if you haven’t even tried.

So what’s coaching? 

First and foremost, Life Coaching is very different then therapy. Therapy is usually focused on healing “old wounds” while life coaching assists people to move forward and take control of today. A therapist wishes to tap into your past to identify the reasons why you are where you are today. A life coach will challenge their clients to identify what they wish to improve upon, to get out of their comfort zone, and determine their preferred future regardless of their past. A Life coach is not there to fix your problems, but to help you uncover the options that have been available to you all along. Whether you are looking to improve your career, a relationship, your health, or physical well being, coaching can guide you to be your own intervention.

Looking for a coach to explore your next move in life. Contact me and let’s get started. -Ambition In The City-