Contrary to popular belief, being single is not a medical condition!
As I approach my 30’s, I have come to notice that being single is often looked down upon. Now I don’t want readers to think I feel this way personally, but I have been a witness to the odd reactions my friends get when they admit that they are neither married nor dating. Let’s examine some common reactions.
A Friends response: ”You won’t be this cute forever.”, “You’re too picky.”
An older sibling’s response: “Isn’t the club and bar scene getting old?”
Mom’s response: ”When are you going to settle down and give me a grandchild?”
The dating/married crowd’s response: “You wouldn’t understand you have never been in a long committed relationship.”
Is being single really that bad?
Based on some of the comments listed above, it seems like single people are running against an imaginary clock. They need to act fast before the wrinkles and cellulite start to settle in, they need to act their age and give up the social scene; they need to hurry up and give their parents grand kids, and my favorite they need to grow up already because they can’t “hang” with people in relationships. The pressure to settle down with one person is definitely more prevalent when you reach your late 20’s and 30’s. It makes me wonder are their people dating just because they think they have to. It’s not easy fighting against all that pressure to be someone’s plus one. Are we supposed to settle for someone that’s “good enough in order to avoid being “singled out”?
Being single shouldn’t feel like some disease that results in the person being looked down upon and judged. “Singledom” should be thought of as a time for self exploration and utter bliss. You come as you please, date who you want and determine what and whom you really want in your life. We have all been single at some point or another so why make it hard for those around us that just haven’t found a partner. If you ask me, people in relationships need to admit that single people make them uncomfortable. Deep down inside some people in relationships yearn for the freedom to be single again so they project their frustrations, and even misery, onto innocent single people. Perhaps this practice has served as a safety blanket of sorts. “If I make others feel bad for being alone I will feel better about being unhappy.” Just something to think about guys.
Being alone can be a scary thought for some, but should these fears be projected onto people who are obviously just fine with the idea. Let people live!
If you’re single and happy that’s all that matters. -Ambition In The City-