It takes a great deal of courage to work towards your goals. Although you might hit a wall every once a while the most successful people understand that there will always be tomorrow. Continue to make efforts towards your own personal success and remember that no one else is responsible for your happiness. There is always a way to make things happen. -AMBITION IN THE CITY
Contrary to popular belief, being single is not a medical condition!
As I approach my 30’s, I have come to notice that being single is often looked down upon. Now I don’t want readers to think I feel this way personally, but I have been a witness to the odd reactions my friends get when they admit that they are neither married nor dating. Let’s examine some common reactions.
A Friends response: ”You won’t be this cute forever.”, “You’re too picky.”
An older sibling’s response: “Isn’t the club and bar scene getting old?”
Mom’s response: ”When are you going to settle down and give me a grandchild?”
The dating/married crowd’s response: “You wouldn’t understand you have never been in a long committed relationship.”
Is being single really that bad?
Based on some of the comments listed above, it seems like single people are running against an imaginary clock. They need to act fast before the wrinkles and cellulite start to settle in, they need to act their age and give up the social scene; they need to hurry up and give their parents grand kids, and my favorite they need to grow up already because they can’t “hang” with people in relationships. The pressure to settle down with one person is definitely more prevalent when you reach your late 20’s and 30’s. It makes me wonder are their people dating just because they think they have to. It’s not easy fighting against all that pressure to be someone’s plus one. Are we supposed to settle for someone that’s “good enough in order to avoid being “singled out”?
Being single shouldn’t feel like some disease that results in the person being looked down upon and judged. “Singledom” should be thought of as a time for self exploration and utter bliss. You come as you please, date who you want and determine what and whom you really want in your life. We have all been single at some point or another so why make it hard for those around us that just haven’t found a partner. If you ask me, people in relationships need to admit that single people make them uncomfortable. Deep down inside some people in relationships yearn for the freedom to be single again so they project their frustrations, and even misery, onto innocent single people. Perhaps this practice has served as a safety blanket of sorts. “If I make others feel bad for being alone I will feel better about being unhappy.” Just something to think about guys.
Being alone can be a scary thought for some, but should these fears be projected onto people who are obviously just fine with the idea. Let people live!
If you’re single and happy that’s all that matters. -Ambition In The City-
Hate your Job?
If you can answer YES to more than half of these statements, it might be time for a change.
-Ambition In The City-
1. My commute to work is a nightmare!
2. My hours are endless and overtime is not an option.
3. My position is mediocre and i know i can do better.
4. I am in a hostile working environment.
5. I do not agree with the work culture that exists at my job.
6. I am underpaid.
7. I feel underutilized.
8. My efforts and hard work are rarely, if ever recognized.
9. I am constantly being singled out unfairly as the culture in the office likes to play favorites.
10. There are little to no opportunities for growth in my position.
11. I am constantly called to conform. Innovative thinking is met with extreme resistance.
12. I am forced to take on additional responsibilities without compensation and support.
13. My daily routine has become mundane.
14. There is lack of creativity in my job.
15. My position is not met with much respect.
16. I do not get along with my coworkers.
17. My day is filled with useless conference calls, meetings, and busy work.
18. Some of the practices i observe on a daily basis are questionable.
19. The higher level management at my job are incompetent.
20. I am sometimes forced to suppress my personality in order to fit the mold at my job.
BONUS: When sexism, ageism, and/or racism is alive and kicking in your workplace there should be no question as whether you should stick around. -Ambition In The City-
“For many people a job is more than an income – it’s an important part of who we are.”-Paul Clitheroe-
“What is it that you like doing? If you don’t like it, get out of it, because you’ll be lousy at it. You don’t have to stay with a job for the rest of your life, because if you don’t like it you’ll never be successful in it.” -Lee Iacocca-
Embrace Choice and Move Forward
I’m 28 years old and i decided to make a change in my life. After years of wanting to have my own business, I am finally taking the steps to make my dreams come true.
As a student of psychology for many years, I have always enjoyed engaging people. I like to think helping people to be better is why I was put on this earth. I have worked with the chronically ill, the mentally ill, the disadvantaged, and the physically drained. The one thing these people all have in common is “Choice”. Whether you are dealing with an illness or a barrier in life you always have a choice. The choice to overcome, to fight, or to change is always yours and yours alone. Your choices are only as limited as you make them to be.
Many people aspire to be a great many things in life, but only half of these people really make it happen. Why is that? Could it be due to fear, lack of resources, obligations, family. People come to me everyday with dozens of reasons why they “can’t” make a change in their lives. I am here to tell them “they can and they will”.
All to often when people share their “wants” and aspirations their positive thoughts are usually followed by various “limiting statements”. These statements come in the form of “i can’t because…”, “I don’t have enough time to..”,or ”I don’t have enough money to..”. Think about the times you have shared a goal or desire with a family member or friend. How many times did these individuals listen intently to a dream you may have for yourself only to share their own limiting thoughts around how you might not be able to pull this off. Now I would like to think our friends and family members are only making these comments because they care about us. No one wants to see someone try and fail, but whose to say you’re going to fail if you haven’t even tried.
So what’s coaching?
First and foremost, Life Coaching is very different then therapy. Therapy is usually focused on healing “old wounds” while life coaching assists people to move forward and take control of today. A therapist wishes to tap into your past to identify the reasons why you are where you are today. A life coach will challenge their clients to identify what they wish to improve upon, to get out of their comfort zone, and determine their preferred future regardless of their past. A Life coach is not there to fix your problems, but to help you uncover the options that have been available to you all along. Whether you are looking to improve your career, a relationship, your health, or physical well being, coaching can guide you to be your own intervention.
Looking for a coach to explore your next move in life. Contact me and let’s get started. -Ambition In The City-
What steps are you willing to take to ensure your own happiness? Still wondering if obtaining a life coach is for you? As yourself the following questions to help you decide.
1) Do you constantly feel disappointed in others and in yourself?
2) Do you need help to achieve your dreams?
3) Has your life moved in the direction you had hoped for?
4) Do you set goals each year that you still haven’t made a reality?
5) Do you think you deserve better but are unsure as to what “better” is?
6) Do you constantly attract obstacle after obstacle and still haven’t figured out why?
7) Do you need someone to listen to your issues in a non judgemental and supportive way?
8) Have you gotten what you want but still want more for yourself?
9) Do you see yourself headed down the wrong path but don’t know where to find the right one?
10) Do you need someone to keep you accountable?
“When its obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps”-Confucius-
Take that next step towards your future happiness. -Ambition In The City-